so so so sick of these feels..

[shay_87]

I'm so over feeling sad and anxious about how other people perseve me.. and worrying if someone is angry at me .. I care more about if some is angry at me then I care about my self.. I'd be willing to apologise for something that I didn't do wrong just so the person doesnt stay mad..if someone doesn't message me bad I automatically think they are angry at me.
How do I over come this? Its getting to a point that I can't even function if I think someone is unhappy with..
HELP!!!*

[Cuchculan]

Ask yourself did you do anything wrong on these people at all. Anything you remember. The answer will be a big ' NO '. You done nothing wrong at all. If it helps take a small diary out with you. In private you can begin to write down how you feel when these feelings kick in. As in why they kicked in. What thought brought them about. Play a ration versus irrational mind game. Irrational meaning it is just your mind playing tricks on you. But as a rule we are aware if we done something wrong on a person. Hence the diary. To keep notes. So you will be aware of what was said and done. You can always look back over it later in the day.

[stateman]

Not sure if this is the answer you are looking for but it has helped me in the past. Anyone that I would care about affending or making upset are people that care about me and wouldn't make a snap judgement on me from one little thing. Anyone who would is probably someone that isn't worth my time worrying about. So just keep in mind that the people who care about you will accept if you do something that in that moment may not have been the best idea. FORGIVE AND FORGET.

[shay_87]

Thank you both for your responses. Its true I haven't done anything to support someone in being angry at me. But then thought start of have I done something that could have upset them they I don't know, had someone told lies about me.. its just an on going thing. I know I can't control people and there thoughts so on. It just drives me insane.