Will I ever be my old self again???? PLEASE HELP

[KTM1028]

So I am wandering if I will ever be my oldself again? I have been having really bad panic attacks sinceI had abad thought about me and my husband, I saw us getting divorced in my head the thought came out of nowhere and now the thought is gone but I keep over analyzing everything we do for no reason. I wonder if when I kiss him now do I get the same feeling I did 2 weeks ago, Its making me crazy I want to curl up in a ball. This sucks when will I stop doing this, its debilitating.

[Squeemy]

Maybe you need to talk with your husband. It may help you sort through your feelings. Worrying about the future wont change it but it will effect your joy in the present. Over analysing is common with anxiety so try catch yourself when you are doing it & just say stop.

[KTM1028]

Thank you for the advice I tell my husband everything good bad or ugly and he said he's not going anywhere. And I am learning to stop myself from over analyzing. Thank you

[tinam7]

The important thing is not to fault yourself or your husband. It is the culture that leads us to believe we are to expect and demand everything the way it is portrayed in the media, in ads, in magazines, etc. Everyone is aglow with big smiles, big white teeth, etc. Is that representative of real life?

Really, what does that do to people?

[stateman]

I am also one that over analyzes everything! I found that being open with my wife has helped a lot. I tell her what I am experiencing at the time, without trying to overwelm her. I mainly tell her for 2 reasons. One to establish a baseline so that she can come back a month later and notice if I am asking things of her more or less. Second to just let her know how I am feeling that day so she knows what to expect from me.

[KTM1028]

Thank you everyone for the advice I am very very lucky to have a husband that is very understanding and patient with me he know this isn't my fault its hereditary and i will be my old self soon. In fact he told me yesterday some ways to help me calm down during my anxious state and when i asked how he knew what to do he said he has been researching anxietu so he can have some sense of what i am going through and try and help me i couldnt ask for a better husband. But I do try and twll him everything i am feeling but i dont want to tell him all the time because i know he must get tired of hearing me cry and beg for someone to make this problem go away.

[tinam7]

He sounds wonderful. Anxiety is probably the issue here and there again, it is my belief that the culture and times contribute.

You might want to try meditating which I am into every day and believe has yet to come into its own with all the benefits it can offer. When my daughter visits we meditate together. She first introduced me to it. It turns out to be lovely to sit, eyes closed, with another person. You and your husband can research it and perhaps try it together. Just a thought for you.

[gagirl1976]

I know this is a few days old but DEFINETLY talk to your husband about it.....when i started having panic attacks I just wanted to be alone and i shut him out and didnt really explain it and he didnt know what was going on and we drifted apart and it ruined our marriage.....now divorced.....remember in sickness and in health.....