Intense Fear of Flying- Not What You Think...

[hannahwolfff]

Hello everyone! I have a problem that I need to get advice on or some sort of support. I'm terrified of flying.

As it is I'm not very good with traveling. I always worry about forgetting to bring something or leaving something behind. I also get home sick kind of easily. But the flying thing really has my undies in a bunch.

My sister is getting married next year and she wants me to go to ghee house for a week and buy a wedding dress with her. I'm also the maid of honor and I have to help her do some planning and picking out bridesmaids gifts and dresses. Here's the problem: I live in Massachusetts, she lives in Wisconsin. I wanted my boyfriend to come with me, because I hate going for a long period of time without him, and he agreed to go, but only if we fly. I agreed to that and the flight is booked. April 25th we are flying to Wisconsin and may 1st we are flying back.

I have never flown before and I am completely not comfortable with it. I am scared to death even just thinking about it. My boyfriend travels all the time so flying isnt an issue with him and he doesn't understand why I'm so bothered by it. No, I'm not afraid of crashing or dying or something going wrong. I'm terrified of making a scene. I get motion sick wicked easily; I swing on a swing and it makes me motion sick. I'm afraid of puking in front of everyone on the plane and I'm afraid of what they'll think. I'm afraid of bringing something that won't be allowed on a plane and they'll dub me a terrorist. I have severe TMJ and I'm scared that the dramatic altitude change and pressure will be extremely painful. I've had numerous anxiety atta ma over it and its more than a month away. I'm wicked excited to go see my sister and do wedding stuff and be able to go on a trip with my boyfriend and be in a different time zone and everything but making a scene at the airport, on the plane. That's what's scaring the poo out of me.

If any one has had this problem or understands this in any way cash ape or form, I would live any feedback or advice you have to share. I'm desperate and I really don't want to be afraid of something like this.

Thank god my sister is getting married in Boston, I want this to be the only time I ever have to fly.

[Cuchculan]

Maybe ask your doctor for something you can take as per needed for the flight there and back. It won't be like you will have to take many of these. One would be enough to get you there. To keep you calm. You may even sleep on the flight. Another idea might be a good self help hypnosis recording about flying on an MP3 player. Just to relax you. It can all be about taken your thoughts away from yourself and placing them elsewhere. Right now you are thinking far too much ahead of time. Go visit your doctor. Explain the situation. See what answers he may have for you. I am sure things will turn out well for you. I am sure you will have a great time at the wedding.

[tinam7]

Flying has always been a terrible problem for me. Good suggestions from Cuch. The tough part for me was packing and leaving home. You are with your BF which will help so much.

Once you are in that plane you'll be able to forget where you are. You can put on the ear phones (music) they provide to shut out the noise. It will seem as if you are on vacation. You may even enjoy it. Until then, distract yourself any way you can to banish the fearful thoughts whenever they want to enter your mind. Mind control can work.