How do I stop worrying?

[msgb98]

I worry about everything. It makes me so angry that I do this. I am exhausted too.
I worry constantly about my parents. They are both in their 80's and have health issues.
My mother had 2   fourteen hour heart surgeries last year (one in February and one in August).
My father had a stroke a year and a half ago and then 3 yrs ago had a heart attack out of the country.
My father has also had multiple melanoma surgeries.
My sister (19 months younger than I), had a stage 4 cancer that she is now 11 1/2 yrs out of due to a bone marrow transplant.
I have DVT, fibromyalgia (as a result of a car accident 22 yrs ago), chronic fatigue and 2 1/2 yrs ago I went through a summer of hell due to three kidney stone surgeries in an 8 week time. 
I should say that I am the oldest of 7 siblings and have always been so concerned about others and very careful about others.
I essentially fell apart once when I was taking an AD. The AD had bad effects on me. I went off right then. I started acupuncture and while that has helped I do not think that it is enough.
I refuse to go on meds. I have been on things and I turn out to be allergic to whatever it is.
I am trying to do better.
I do not feel that I can ever be relaxed. I always feel like I have to be on heightened alert--especially when it comes to my parents.
My husband and I have not gone on a vacation (anywhere--not even to a local place) in over 5 yrs. Part of that is because of finances but when we have had the money we have used it for things that pop up. (a refrigerator that needed to be bought etc).
I know it seems silly and foolish all these worries. I know it just makes things inside of me inflamed and that is not good for me.
I really need to learn to push out some of these worries and get on with life.

[shay_87]

Hi sorry you going through so much.
For me I try not to let the thoughts roll around in my head to long.. I acknowledge the issue then push it out of mind.
It might sound silly but it might be as simple as every morning when you wake up telling yourself I am ok, please around me ok. And it is out of my control.
Hope that helps....

[msgb98]

I thank you for your reply.
I actually think that if I am not in the area with my parents then perhaps I won't feel as worried.
But they need help and they have just me and a brother and one of my sisters right now to rely on.
Neither drives because of their health issues.
my brother lives with them. He is just a gem. He helps so much.
I live about 35 minutes away (on a good day).
My sister lives down the street but she has 4 children (under the age of 8 and the youngest has a severe health issue).
As I stated the other four live out of state or out of the country and they all have their own families and jobs.
My brother who lives with my parents essentially his job is taking care of my parents.
I have had a few health issues of late of which TMJ and new dental issues are the ones causing pain at the moment.
I also have fibromyalgia which is causing a lot of flare at the moment, too.

I have been used to walking (although at the moment not so easy when it snows and is cold).
I also knit so there is a relaxer for me. I guess I will have to go to a yoga class as well soon.
I know acupuncture will help Thankfully I have an appt tomorrow.

Thank you so much for your reply.