Anybody here who has no one to turn to...

[vanilla1969]

Anyone here who doesn't have anyone to turn to? I have been panicky all day and it ramped up about 1 1/2 hours ago and I have no one to talk to or turn to and no husband/boyfriend who lives with me. All I have is my 13 and 12 year old kids who I definitely can't let know how I feel for fear of scaring them that something will happen to their mother. I feel miserable right now, it's the scariest thing to think you are going to die and you have no one to talk to or lean on, those of you who don't have anybody like me how do you get through it? Cause I'm really on edge right now, thinking the scare with my son last night has spilled over into today. Last night when I was scared about my son I had no anxiety feeling other than the fear of what was happening with him, felt normal other than the fear of his finger being cut.

[trainwreck]

It is pretty normal to react the way you have.  You were fine when he needed help. And today is a very rough day.   I would guess most of us are like that. 

[Chelseaburns24]

I feel,a lot like,this also I get panicky and feel like I'm going to die believe  me it's a normal part of anxiety and you will be ok. You can message me whenever does not matter the time of day if you need to talk chelseaburns24@0204

[vanilla1969]

Thank you Chelsea I definitely will, I been on the phone with my ex practically all day cause I'm scared.

[vanilla1969]

Sad thing is I think I just ran my cousin off I guess cause now she won't answer the phone and she always answered the phone when I called. 

People always talk about me not letting my ex go who's not good for me but hell he's the only one there when I call. Feel so stuck right now. When I call anybody else to discuss my issues they say "just quit thinking about it" hell if it was that easy I would, or they just don't answer the phone.

[tinam7]

Very few of us have anyone to turn to so you are actually part of many and not alone. We have a community of this sort right here which can be remarkably supportive and helpful.

The most important person to turn to is, in fact, you. In CBT I have learned to develop a Self that, frankly, hardly ever existed. So there is hope. We can work on ourself, develop confidence, inner strength, a sense of self worth and learn to like ourself and rely on ourself. Such development takes time and patience and dedication. It can be done. Wishing you the very best.

[marc]

I agree with tinam7.

[sixpack]

The most important person to turn to is, in fact, you. In CBT I have learned to develop a Self that, frankly, hardly ever existed. So there is hope. We can work on ourself, develop confidence, inner strength, a sense of self worth and learn to like ourself and rely on ourself. Such development takes time and patience and dedication. It can be done. Wishing you the very best.

EXACTLY

[MrMoleHill]

It's the reason I'm on this forum.

It's easy to understand why a broken arm hurts, and people can sympathize and empathize. But anxiety is not so tangible, and therefore more difficult to grasp.

[floridaguy65]

As, you can see from the other replies, you're not alone. That said, in our individual lives, we sure CAN feel alone, as we don't really have someone to turn to in person, most of the time. This is one of the toughest aspects of mental health challenges. It is next to impossible to have someone (who doesn't struggle themselves) understand our, sometimes, rough trials. Even loved ones or best of friends grow weary of what we can put them through with our seeking reassurances. This doesn't make us bad people, for sure. We are trying to find a way through it all. This doesn't mean we are not loved. They are trying to find a way to 'understand' - to help, as best they can. Other peeps have their own lives to live. We know this and we, most often, feel guilty in reaching out looking for further reassurances.

We will never, fully, be able to "just quit thinking about it". So do not try:) What we can learn to do is to not let those thoughts drive us into being dominated by fear and doubt and insecurity. These emotions can lead us into being nearly paralyzed - feeling as though there is little help...little hope of ever being able to be the major definer of our OWN well-being.

The most important person to turn to is, in fact, you. In CBT I have learned to develop a Self that, frankly, hardly ever existed. So there is hope. We can work on ourself, develop confidence, inner strength, a sense of self worth and learn to like ourself and rely on ourself. Such development takes time and patience and dedication. It can be done. Wishing you the very best.

Ultimately, you will always be the best person for the job. And, that 'job' is learning how to live WELL eventhough you have anxiety disorder(s) / health anxiety. You do this right now....though anxiety peeps feel they NEVER get a break, when struggling. You do live WELL, at times. Anxiety makes us perceive it is a 24/7 - 365 day battle, when we are struggling.

Eventhough the longest lasting help will come from yourself, we sure can get help from other sources. Gentle guidance, some clarity, some direction, some much needed quickish relief can, hopefully, be passed our way. But, it will still always be up to us (each of us) to move towards finding that extra help we sometimes need:)

When was the last time you felt you were doing 'OK'?

Peace and Feel Well:)

[vanilla1969]

I was myself this past weekend, my oldest daughter came home from college for my youngest son's birthday, the first night here we went out to eat and I was scared to go cause I was afraid of a panic attack with all the kids together talking and being in public puts the panic attack fear in me to begin with, I took my Lorazepam about an hour before the dinner and did very well. The following day Saturday I was out more than normal and did pretty good as well, I also went with my daughter to her best friends baby birthday party. Saturday was pretty much anxiety free and worry free.

This mess since yesterday seems unprovked, I'm just feel like I'm turn on high and I dont' have anything to do with it. It's just a nervous feeling that won't go away. I feel like I have driken alot of energy drinks if that makes sense. 

[vanilla1969]

And that feeling is scary when you feel that way and don't feel like you did anything to cause it.

[tinam7]

A number of us have been at this, proactively, for some time. Years for me. There generally are few quick, easy answers. "There is no free lunch," as the saying goes. How we help ourselves can vary from person to person but it is nice to share our ways as FG has done beautifully in any number of threads and the same for SP. Where are they all? Can we gather them in one place?

V, with your daughter and son's birthday you were pleasantly distracted. But then that wore off and you had to face yourself, apparently not strong enough to stand on your own. The first step toward improvement, in my mind and experience, is understanding. That precedes the work of CBT. In my view we must take that long view back into our own early years. A bit of Freud, unpopular today. Perhaps in time brain researchers may locate 0782 in the the brain and treat it. Until then, we can try together to make life better.

Want to add that it is good you maintain a relationship with your ex. Your children will need him as they get older and his value to them will make life also better for you.