erotic transference

[Atlas]

I usually see a female therapist. I took a 9 yr break & now started to see someone new. A male. 2 months into therapy we unearthed a secret I buried from childhood of a man that was in my life & was horrible to me. For the past couple of months ive been fantasizing about my therapist. I love the attention I get in therapy,  he listens & I haven't had my husband listen to me in yrs. Yes I'm physically attracted to him but pretty sure hes not. When I vaguely mentioned it in a list of things I gave him he kind of skipped over it. Id be too embarrassed to mention it again. My sex drive is also in overdrive, which never happens, & cant fulfill my appetite. Even considered looking outside my marriage! This isn't like me 0213 all & a bit scared of what I'm capable of doing. I have 3 young children 0213 home. When I talk to my therapist I'm very distant, cant look him in the eye,  angry & I don't trust him. But desperately I want to & to share things w/him but part of me says not to that I'm headed for a disaster. I don't wanto get hurt.
id hate to have to start all over again w/someone else. That's exasperating! I don't think id bother. 
.  The situation is very depressing. Therapists in my town are slim pickings
.  I know I should either tell him & get it out in the open or leave altogether. Will the feelings go away? Why am i so into sex all of the sudden (not nice sex either). Could it be something else going on? Arre the feelings bec of what we talk about? Is it all in my head? Should I just find someone else? Id

love to hear other peoples opinions about this. Not like I can talk to anyone about this either

[budii247]

im certainly no expert at any of this but if I were you I would talk to my therapist about it. Hes the expert. Maybe then he can explain it to you and understanding it might help you overcome it. Since youre already comfortable. However I would also make efforts to find a new therapist afterwards.

[tinam7]

Freud has been dismissed these days but that is a mistake, in my view. The power of the libido is just about overrunning the culture. Women are half undressed, men set the stage. Suggestive ads for their issues are all over the place. Women must be blondes, long hair, plasticized, squeezed into their skimpy clothing. Passion, no, lust, is the order of the day.

In my view, the culture has gotten to you: your husband is not enough. You might speak to your shrink and hope he is decent or you have an even bigger mess on your hands. Of course, this has happened before but it is my thinking the environment makes it even harder today. You could also have a talk with your husband. Just my thoughts. Wishing you the best.

[Cilantro]

Have you considered, I don't know... toys for yourself at home to help take the edge off your sex drive without compromising either your marriage or your therapy? There are online sellers who'll even ship discreetly.