This is all good advice, but what if you give your partner what it is that they need and they REFUSE to get ANY kind of help, and the abuse caused by the anxiety is detrimental to the relationship? What do you do for a person who desparately needs help, but refuses to get it?
I can totally understand this, although I am the one who refuses to get help
My partner says it all the time, why don't you love me enough to get help? Why do you let yourself be unhappy? Then he starts thinking he's not good enough to keep me because I "obviously don't care enough" to get help, and somehow he blames that on himself. It makes me feel terrible, but I understand where your partner is coming from. I don't seek out help because I feel embarrassed and stupid. I'm not sure what his problems are, but I am constantly plagued with the thought that my problems are dumb and psychologists have much better things to do than listen to my problems. I realize I may lose my partner but I just haven't been able to do it yet. I keep telling myself there's nothing wrong with me, but yet I know there is.
Unfortunately, I am selfish, and I think a lot of anxiety sufferers are too, not because they want to be but that's just how it is
From your end though, I can see how enough is enough. I just wanted to share my feelings from the other side. Good luck!