I have thought about natural remedies? Maybe a therapist, I am open to anything
For anything other than mild anxiety natural remedies are a waste of money. Most of them are formulated on faulty understanding of what drives anxiety. Therapy, OTOH, can be as effective as antidepressants. If your health insurance covers it then it would be a good option.
....just preferably not an anti-depresssant.
then there is what I know isn't my anxiety...gerd/silent reflux....struggling with this.
You might be completely wrong. The gut and brain are tightly linked. The gut even has its own brain, the enteric nervous system
which is connected to the one in your head via the vagus nerves (which also link the heart and lungs). In recent years electronic vagus nerve stimulators
have become important tools for alleviating treatment resistant depression and anxiety (also epilepsy). You're probably aware of the role of serotonin in anxiety and depression. The brain makes and uses a little less than 2% of the serotonin in your body. The gut about 95%. Which gives you an idea how important it is in the scheme of things. The remainder is used by the skin and blood vessels where it mediates blood vessel dilation and constriction and wound repair.
Getting your anxiety under control may lessen the gerd and reflux too.