What you are feeling is totally normal for any married couple. He difference for us OCDers is the importance we put on these feelings. The more attention and worry we give them, the worse it feels and it feels like something is wrong. There is nothing wrong. While I was engaged I had a major OCD episode about doubting whether I should marry my fiancÚ...the whole "what if" game. It was OCD and it passed, we got married and it all worked out! But both my husband and I definitely don't always have the romantic love feelings toward each other...and that was from early on in our relationship (and let me tell you, when we were first seriously dating we were stupid, crazy in love with all the romantic/cheesy stuff).