words for thought

[reece]

hi
i'm trying to stay away from the boards for my own benefit right now. i find that sometimes the boards fuel some fears for me. i love knowing that they are here and when i find myself in a panic, this is where i will come before i go to google :)  i wish i could just come on and offer support somehow but for now, i can't.

except for this ;)
i had a little revelation the other day and thought i'd share it.  2 things really. one, it's been said before, but worth repeating. acceptance. acceptance is key. i have been accepting a little more each day this past year and the other day i said to myself. this is life. things happen. good AND bad. it's not going to stop happening. there are going to be things that i have to deal with. worrying endlessly about one thing, thinking "if this would just go away i'd be okay" is so wrong. because, there is always the next thing. so i'm changing my thinking. instead, i'm saying, "there will be things that come along, I will have to face them"  That is life. it just is. I'm wasting the good worrying about the bad. Not to say I won't worry some, but I'm going to try to accept the worry for what it is and not exaggerate it.

Also, i wondered if the relief brought on by reassurance is addictive. so, we get all amped up with worry about a medical problem, then we get a negative test result and that wave of relief feels so good that we start the process all over again.  just an awareness that i wanted to bring up. sometimes just being aware helps things to dissipate.

so, that's my 2 cents for now. just wanted to put it out there.

thanks for listening :)

[gcalex]

Yes, many have pointed out the problems with reassurance, you are absolutely right.  But it's a hard concept for people to get.

[Hohum]

This is a very insightful post - thanks for it.

You make a really good point about misfortune being part of living, and I think that particular fact is lost in the quagmire of anxiety in general. Thinking back on my life, and the lives of my friends/family, there has been many good and bad times. The bad times were never what we worried about, but nevertheless we had to face them and get through them. Kind of makes you think - what's the point in worrying?

[LindaRK]

Good post - you can't put life on hold waiting for whatever problem you currently have to go away, especially with HA/anxiety.  As you said, it CAN be one thing after another if you're not managing it well.

[marc]

reece, your post is correct and to the point.