Does anyone else have a fear of driving a car? I really need to find a way through this fear but I'm not having much luck. The public transport system here is not that great and I would like to have kids soon and can't rely on my husband (who works full-time) to drive us places - ie what if the kid has to go to the doctor etc - I can't make them walk there, that's not fair.
When I'm driving I get so scared that I'm going to have a crash and die. I've seen how a lot of people drive and it seems like it's a high possibility to be honest.
Then when I do drive something generally happens to feed this fear - I get tail-gated every time I drive (I do the speed-limit), I've also been threatened & sworn at, cut off, almost forced off the road etc. I can't get over that stuff and it seems to happen to me more than anyone else.
Now I'm so afraid that I can't drive without someone else in the car with me. I grip the steering wheel so tight and I'm in a heightened state of anxiety the entire time. I also tend to panic, which is something I'd like to learn to avoid as it's dangerous - ie, an unexpected situation occurs and my mind goes completely blank except for the overwhelming need to stop the car NOW. So I slam on the brakes. I have nearly had many accidents because of this, so this in turn makes me feel unsafe on the roads.
I've always been a little scared of driving - sometimes in the passenger seat I'll freak out, but ultimately I'm pretty sure this started when I was learning how to drive. One or other of my parents used to take me and they basically screamed at me from the second I got in the car to the second I got out. If I made the slightest mistake there was hell to pay etc. So I'm pretty sure that caused this problem, but now I have no clue how to fix it.
I've had refresher driving lessons (I actually do have my licence, somehow managed to pass the test, no clue how) but the instructors never understand. They always say 'why are you here if you have your licence?' or 'you can drive, what is your problem', or 'you are really hesitant, you need to work on that' and that is it. So I've given up on wasting money on refresher lessons.
I have major issues with my spatial awareness when driving for some reason, which means I'm too afraid to drive by myself. I need someone there to tell me if I am even in my lane because I cannot tell, let alone trying to park etc. I've tried lining up points on the car etc but it just never works. I really need to figure this out but don't have a clue how.