Should I continue this relationship or end it?

[AbnormallyAnxious]

Okay so I was in a relationship for nearly 2 years and it ended in August due to my brother. My bf came over and we we were upstairs in my house and he had leaned in on me telling me that he missed me, etc in a whisper so my brother wouldn't hear and he was a little tipsy that day so my brother got really angry and came upstairs and told him WHAT did you just say? My bf didn't say anything wrong I think my brother just misheard what he was telling me. He also told him how could you come over while drunk and while no one was home (my bf had called me and knew no one was home). Then my brother just stood there literally waiting for him to leave at first I started arguing with my brother telling him what in the world he heard coz my poor bf was so innocent but my brother was so hard headed and claimed 100% he heard something and just wouldn't refuse to accept that he said nothing. After a while of my poor bf just standing there, amazed just staring at the ground (my bf was 24 at that time and my brother only 15), he made his way to the door and slammed it hard. He had called me after he left and i responded then again like 20 times that night. I couldn't respond I was too scared my brother would snitch on me my dad already knew he came over without permission so I was really worried and couldn't continue the trouble by responding his call plus I was too busy sitting in the living room praying that my brother wouldn't say anything. Hopefully he didn't, however once I got out of the living room and went into my bedroom I grabbed my phone and to my surprise I got a text that said it's over between us. I replied him telling him sorry, ily i was busy, etc but he didn't respond. Btw that was in my home country, then a month later I came to the united states and 4 months later (a couple weeks ago) he writes to me. So now I have the choice to resume our relationship but guess what guys I hacked into his account and read conversations he had with his sister stating that he hopes I'll be his destiny so that him and his sister will see each other more often (his sister lives in a diff country and my bf can not leave his country he does not have a passport or anything). However his sister was jealous of me being with him in the emails she told him I'm not interesting, have nothing in my head, i'm ugly, and that he deserves better than me as if he's gold and i'm garbage. She does not want me to have him and idk why. So idk maybe he told her that so she'll calm down and take it as him just using me and not wanting me for real??

I seriously don't know what to do guys I don't want to tell him what I know 'cause he'll know I'm the one who got into his account and that would show a lack of trust. I just wanted to know what was really going on beneath everything, if he really loved me, etc and what I found depressed me..... what should I do... i want this a lot but after seeing those e-mails and after him leaving me for 4 months i feel like he doesn't love me.

[Cuchculan]

I think it is coversation time. There is little else you can do for now. Just have a good old heart to heart chat and see where each of you stand on the whole issue. Make the point that it is between just you and him. Not anybody else. Other family members have no say in what goes on. He will think you are talking about your brother. Not his sister. Really you have to find out where his thinking is at right now. Where he wants this to go. Does he want to go anywhere at all. Until you know these answers there is very little you can do.

We have all done the hacking of email accounts at least once before. I hold my hands up to that one. Only what I found was a little bit more on the sexual side between a female I was seen at the time and another bloke. Pictures included. I think what you read with light reading. It could have been a whole lot worse.

So have that conversation. See where his mind is at right now. Then make your mind up on things.

[AbnormallyAnxious]

What kind of conversation? Are you telling me to tell him I hacked him, and tell him everything I found? Should we be talking about that? Or.. ?

[howahkan]

Hmmm.. You're 18 now? And he was 24 correct? So you were 16 when he was 24. That, in itself is a huge issue.

[AbnormallyAnxious]

Hmmm.. You're 18 now? And he was 24 correct? So you were 16 when he was 24. That, in itself is a huge issue.

Nah gurl when he was 24 I was 17 for a while but then I turned 18 'cause his birthday is in October/1987 and mines is in February/1994. And between me and him that wasn't an issue.