Let's be clear on one thing from the start. As the father of those kids you have just as much right to see the kids as their mother does. So sit down with your wife and discuss arrangements surrounding the kids. They will always be part of your life. Nobody can take that part of your life away from you. Now, let us say we have found a new place to live. What do we do first in this new area? We have a look around. For what? Well maybe there are groups in the area. Groups of interest. Something you like doing. Were you can meet like minded people. There may be place you can volunteer your services for a few hours a week. Meets lots of people doing things like that. What you are doing right now is looking too far ahead of yourself. For years it looks like you have had this big safety blanket around you. The safety blanket been the wife and her circle of friends and relatives. Now you see that as been taken away from you. So you assume the safety that came with that will have to vanish too. That doesn't have to be the case. If you are staying local I am sure a few of her family and friends will still like you. They may still be interested in meeting up every so often. It doesn't have to be the end of everything. May lose a few things. But this is were we work hard to replace to things. If that does mean creating a new circle of friends, then that is what we do. Right now you might not be thinking straight at all. Might not be thinking of meeting other people. But these things can happen if we find the right places to go. Might even meet a new partener. It is all there to be done. Just take you time. Sit yourself down. Draw a to do list. Then begin looking around for things on your list and make this way of life happen. Just have to believe in yourself.