Divorce and the Anxiety of all the changes

[Aquaticape]

My wife and I have been trying to make things better for the past year or so.  It has always been a relationship of ups and downs. Both could go for days or months. We have a 9 and 11 year old. We decided just the other day that the time has come. Too much arguing in front of the kids and constantly not making each other happy. It is really tough but I do know it is the better thing to do. Now for the depression and anxiety.....
My skin has been crawling the past few days and the anxiety attacks are in waves. I have fear of living alone. I have spent the last 15 years so close to all her family and friends that I feel like I am losing so much.....not to mention my two great kids. It makes me so sad. 
I have been pretty anxiety free for the past few years. I still take Paxil but only 12.5 per day. I am sure I will be needing to bump that up again. Last time I had this about 10 years ago I fought the use of meds for months. When I finally met a phsych he said together out of his office if I will not take what he suggested. He was right. With in a couple weeks things started to feel much better. I have a doctors appt. tomorrow to bumps this up.
I still have no idea how I am going to proceed and make it through the next little while as we sell our house and I will have to find a new place to live. Everything feels like it will change so much. How will I be able to function as a parent with anxiety and depression as well as not seeing my kids. What will I do with my time. How will I make new friendships. I am scared

[camel]

I don't have any advice, sorry, but I wanted to see how you have been doing since you made this post?

[Cuchculan]

Let's be clear on one thing from the start. As the father of those kids you have just as much right to see the kids as their mother does. So sit down with your wife and discuss arrangements surrounding the kids. They will always be part of your life. Nobody can take that part of your life away from you. Now, let us say we have found a new place to live. What do we do first in this new area? We have a look around. For what? Well maybe there are groups in the area. Groups of interest. Something you like doing. Were you can meet like minded people. There may be place you can volunteer your services for a few hours a week. Meets lots of people doing things like that. What you are doing right now is looking too far ahead of yourself. For years it looks like you have had this big safety blanket around you. The safety blanket been the wife and her circle of friends and relatives. Now you see that as been taken away from you. So you assume the safety that came with that will have to vanish too. That doesn't have to be the case. If you are staying local I am sure a few of her family and friends will still like you. They may still be interested in meeting up every so often. It doesn't have to be the end of everything. May lose a few things. But this is were we work hard to replace to things. If that does mean creating a new circle of friends, then that is what we do. Right now you might not be thinking straight at all. Might not be thinking of meeting other people. But these things can happen if we find the right places to go. Might even meet a new partener. It is all there to be done. Just take you time. Sit yourself down. Draw a to do list. Then begin looking around for things on your list and make this way of life happen. Just have to believe in yourself.