Emotional pain- I can physically feel- need to work...help!

[Happy sailing]

Hey there,
My anxiety issues basically began this year.  Although I feel like the stress and lack of emotional support and other things over the last. 6+ years contributed, the tragic death of my sister Jan 2012 was a main trigger for my current issues.  Due to physical symptoms, I stopped working May 2012.  I haven't gotten back to any form of work yet.
I live in a small town, which I moved to 4 1/2 years ago to get away from a stressful relationship.  The job I got here, my schedule was evenings and splits on Fri, Sat, Sun.  Small town, new here, and work schedule meant I pretty much didn't have a social life except for work. 
I don't have a husband or kids.  My friend's are back in the big city where I lived and basically 0409 is my only contact with them. 
I am in my early 40's and hate that I don't have a husband or kids, that I still want.
At home, not much to do, LONELY and pain of losing a close sister at the beginning of 2012.
I want to go back to work asaGp.  However small town means not many work options, not to ,mention trying to go back to work with anxiety issues.  Don't know what to do about the emotional pain that I can feel physically.  I don't think any meds can fix that.
Anyway.. Think work would help, including self esteem that sucks right now. However, hard to push myself now, with anxiety and fears etc. 
Not sure what anyone can say.. Emotional pain, and such..
However, maybe someone could say something, even about overcoming the anxiety issues and emotional pain to get myself back to some form of work.

[oak]

Are you seeing a therapist? Think it would help if you have access. Hugs, oak

[Happy sailing]

Hey there Oak,
Yes, I am seeing a talk therapy counsellor.  I am not sure how much it is helping.  Basically just telling her how I feel.  I am also seeing a psychiatrist for meds.
What is CBT and the other stuff... Does anyone have input on that?
Also, I think working would help some of the loneliness.
Thanks for responding Oak!!   

[Happy sailing]

Please explain CBT. And. EMDR

Thanks!