Lonely

[anxiousmedic]

How do I fight the feeling of being lonely when I dont even want to leave the house?? and when I have people over I want them to leave literally after an hour? seems like a viscious cycle that I dont know how to break..

[Cuchculan]

To be honest I think it comes with the agoraphobic turf. A lot of us who are single spend most of our time alone. If we do leave the house we tend to do things by ourselves. It is just part of the condition. I am not sure if you have any one friend, one who you are closer to than any others? One you can talk to. To explain your thoughts and situation. Once you do that you might feel a bit better about yourself. That at least somebody else knows. It is no longer this big secret. Hope you manage to sort things out.

[Marilynj28]

im like you anxiousmedic, i never have people over because after they get there i want them to leave like right away lol even when i go out places or to friends houses, i ALWAYS bring my own vehicle because i never want to stay out. as soon as im somewhere, i want to leave because i would rather be at home. i feel alot better knowing i can leave whenever i want. so maybe go to people instead of having them come to your house?

[anxiousmedic]

I tend to do the same and go to other peoples houses when I have enough courage to do so.. I usually only last a short period of time but I feel it hinders my relationships...

[LotsOfExperience]

Why do you want them to leave the house? Is it because you are feeling panicky the whole time, or does the anxiety build up over the hour to a point where you feel that you cannot cope any longer? Do you have actual panic attacks?

I remember the feelings I used to get. Having conversations with people while 75% of my mind is completely focused on myself and my fears. It can be excruciating, but the more you hang in there and the more often you have friends around, the better things will get. You realise that you can cope and indeed you are coping. Some medications also help ease the fears.

[Pippy187]

I'm very much like this... I don't like getting into situations I cannot easily get out of.... With that said I find when I do get into those situations such as car pooling etc etc i bring the distraction devices a book or play with my cell phone a lot... It may seem rude but it combats the anxiety... I don't like having people over much the same reason you don't either... I think at times this condition makes us feel safe when we are alone.... I think it's odd. But hang in there with a bit of exposure over time it can ease up.