I just want to add this to mix!!! I have a odd one that I cant shift right now and it is full blown, crying all the time kinda thing, me and my partner had be going through a bad patch, I think mostly me over thinking and my issues, all that happened was I look at him and saw something I didnt like, I couldnt put my finger on it, and then I thought I dont want to be with you (this isnt new to me I've done it to every relationship and obsessed till I couldnt cope, and ran away from it all) so when I saw and thought this with him, I couldnt cope, I dont want to go through this with him, and it sent me mad, dragging up everything and more.
I spent the next 4 years sorting myself out, reading "brain lock by dr. Jeffrey Schwartz" and "The brain and the Mind also by Jeffrey Scwartz" both really good books, brain lock is for OCD, but I think you can use it to cover most problems, but the bit I like was the line in the second book, and he was talking about the brain and the mind, and it struck me, me, I am the MIND and the BRAIN is the computer that isnt working right, and with this thought, I was armed, cos when you feel ok, nothing can touch you, but bring in stress and your brain will not change gear, or let go, so step by step I started to listen only to the positive thoughts and when I was down or there was too much negative, I just thought to myself I'm not listening to you anymore, slowly I started to notice the difference, and it helped big time, and I had a year and bit break from it, but I've been lucky cos I dont have kids and I was signed off so I could spend the time sorting myself out, cos there is alot of stress out there. So my full blown is now because I have to start looking for work. I really have ranted about this, sorry. I hope you can take something from this, and your not alone.