Don't know what to do

[basketcase]

Hi All,
 Man, things seem to be pretty stressful for so many on here and I am sure sorry. I will add my stressful situation to the mix as well. Since March 11th I have been going nuts because of my daughter who has decided I'm not worth her time. It all started because I couldn't get up to her house in time for her to have her OB appt. before she went into have baby #5. Because of this damned anxiety, I can't drive and she lives 35 miles from me. My hubby was going to take the day off work but was told of a meeting he had to attend so that meant I was going to be late getting to my daughter's. She was livid and accused me of using my anxiety as an excuse and if I couldn't come when she needed me, then don't come at all. I've been so upset since and can't stop thinking about all this and have tried to contact her but she won't talk to me. I've told her through email that I am sorry and have called her but she refuses to talk to me. I can't go on knowing that my only daughter hates me and I can't see her or the grandkids. My hubby talked to her and begged her to let this go but she refused saying, I had betrayed her. I don't get how I did that as we were coming, she refused to understand and now is being just cruel and hard hearted. My anxiety has been awful and I have muscle aches and headaches and palpitations and em so tired but yet can only get about 5-6 hrs of sleep a night.
  Any ideas from you guys sure would help me. I am tired of crying and feeling unimportant. I did everything for my daughter, going without so she could have things. How this hurts and she doesn't care. I didn't raise her to be this type of person. Thanks for reading all this, you guys are wonderful.

Valerie

[NorthernRC]

I feel For you basketcase, Family relationships can be the most rewarding and the most destructive. I sounds like you've done all you can for your daughter. If you've done all you can and still nothing, it's time to move on. I've had similar situations with some of my and my wifes family. If you can't change the situation your only hurting yourself trying to fix the situation. You seem like a nice person, I'm sure you can find other people who will appreciate you for you.

[greenhillgirl]

you poor thing I feel sad for you.be patient your daughter will be very tired and hormonal and still having to look after 4 kids .It is very frustrating having GAD and can be very frustrating for family and friends ,i couldn't go to one of my best friends wedding because I was to ill .Your daughter probably feels fragile and betrayed ,it may not be realistic feelings but that is how she feels .give her time send her some cards telling her that you are sorry she feels like that and that you are thinking of her and when she is ready to talk that you are there ready to listen .It's unfair that GAD has left your family with this horrible situation but it is not you it is the illness, the illness betrayed her and she feels hurt.It is worth being patient as a daughter and 5 grandchildren is a lot to loose I am sure you two will work it out .unfortunately it just one more thing you have to deal with  and it is hard when you are tired.If you find it hard to sleep try taking 2 paracetamol before bed it helps your body relax ask your doctor first if you are unsure but it really helps me .goodluck and I will pray for some peace for you and your family

[basketcase]

You guys are so great and thanks for all the kind words and thoughts. As for my daughter and her attitude, I will just let it be even though I'm not the type of person who can
let things go.......I have always been the peacemaker in the family. The other thing that is so difficult is being home alone day in and day out and not having anything to take my mind off my daughter. Glad I can come here though and share with all of you. It is good to have others who understand what dealing with GAD is all about. Take care now and thanks again for caring. Have a good day, ok?

Valerie

[NorthernRC]

You know, my wife has aways been the peace maker in her family and it drives me nutz Her father (bi-polar) and her mother (co-dependant) always treat her and our kids as second rate next to her awesome big sister (Bi-polar, clinically depressed, just plain mean!) and her pretty little sister (not that pretty and not that little!) she always get the shaft but comes bouncing back for more. However, as we all know too well, supressing that anger and disappointment is a quick way to increase anxiety and cause physical problems. I'm an oldest child and a "type A' kinda guy so it's easy for me to sit back and say "screw'em" but, as hard as it is, you have to realize that your worth is not what others see you as but as how you truly see yourself. Keep plugging away, your in my thoughts and prayers. And if you ever want to adopt a grand child, I've got a 3 year old boy I'd let go cheap