How do you stop

[mrsworrywart]

I can't stop Obsessing about alot of things latey lately they just keep playing over and over in my head like a recorder. how do i stop when all i can do is thinking about the same things thats wrong over and over in my head again. Its not that easy as to say just stop it i wished i could. I worrie all the time over everything. Thanks

[plomeli]

Have you tried getting professional help? I've been there as a matter of fact I am going through this right now and other than medication to help there is therapy. I think that for us to stop is very difficult because we have set our brain to think this way, to stop would mean we would have to break this habit. It becomes a habit.... every time I am in a certain situation I do this! good luck to you.

[breynolds95746]

Hey Mrsworrywart,

First off, you've got to try and relax before analyzing what is going on mentally. The key is to remember that THOUGHTS are just THOUGHTS. They do not control you, nor do they dictate your actions without proper processing. You definitely should consider seeing a professional on the matter, as plomeli suggested. They can at least sit you down, allow you to open up about the problem, and eventually decide whether you are better served with therapy, medication, or any other outlet/support to correct the stress. Hang in there though, you are not alone. If you have time, please elaborate here on what's going on specifically with you mentally. Perhaps more of explanation will help me and the rest of the community to better understand what you are going through, because believe me, many of us have been there before. And we are all here for each other. Either way, best of luck to you friend.

Brad

[mrsworrywart]

Well i have allways been a worrier even in school i can remember one of my teachers saying to me that i was such a worry wart and that it wasn't good for me to do. I allways would worry about things that had to deal with school, Like taking tests, getting bad grades, bully's, ect.. And the troubled childhood i had at home. That's where this name mrsworrywart came from. Now as I'm older i worry about the adult stuff like money bills family kids ect.. I have no job cause i cant even leave the house. I kept going to the Er's.. and doc and ents and obgyns witch hes was a PCP as well in 2008 right after dad died. Well i did this for months they told me i have OCD GAD, HA Panic attacks. Now i have agoraphobia and i have it so bad to the point where i cant even leave the house just to go for a walk to the store with out having a panic attack. And i can remember that I had so many weird symptoms dizzy allmost like a 24/7 thing..I get weird pressures in my head i get numb and tingly hands legs feet ect.., I get heavy jelly like legs almost as if my legs are gonna give out and i cant walk, i get heart palms,.I feel like I'm in a dream like state  the feeling of doom, cant sleep that much any more. And the list goes on. Then i do all the whats if its this what if its that and there i go with google. and that's where my HA comes in. I had a bad childhood. cant stop reliving it in my mind over again. I got like this while i was going thew a divorce in 2003.( This was a very messy and it lasted well over a year just to get divorced). And when my dad died in 2008. and now my mom died last year in 20011 both parents died  3 years apart just day before my bday. I have every single symptom that i had the last few times this happend to me  but i was on meds then and this time I'm not i have no medical. I have relationship troubles. Its kinda personal.( bf is ready to leave me because i have all these issues. He says negative things to me and that's one thing i know you shouldn't do to someone who allready has anxiety and other troubles. Like get over it and your a useless piece or pooh get off your fat 0104 and do something. But he's part of the reason I'm like this too Not all of it just some of it.  When he says things like this it makes my anxiety much worse. The other half is my own fault for doing this to myself. I lost all my friends and i don't go out to even try and make more cause I'm afraid they will think I'm crazy like my other friends did and then i wont have them any more either. I obsess over my mom and dad dying, over what people are saying or are thinking about me, over not having a job, over money, over my bf cheatting on me. over not being able to pay the bills, over losing my house and not having a place to stay for me and my kids. over if I'm being a good mom to my kids cause lately with all the stress I'm under i feel like i haven't been there for them and i often wounder if they will hate me cause I'm all messed up they are old enough to see somethings not right with me, I'm just so lost and confused with my life and everything else that's in it right now. And it sux i m only 35 and this anxiety thing has been going off and on for years. and has wrecked my life and i feel as if its taking over me and everything around me sometimes. I would like t know what happend to me i used to have not a care in the world and i was a happy bubbly person at one point in my life. I hope this helps to let you know alittle of whats going on with me theres more but i could write a book if i stay here any longer. Thanks