Obsession with kurt cobain how should i handle this

[brianaoa]

hey guys im 17 male and have this maybe not all out obsession but infatuation with kurt cobain.
ive always loved his music i play guitar and write music myself and alot of aspects of his life i can relate to. alot of people can. its been about 2 years now ive been interested in this band but its getting to the piont where i dont even like it anymore. i dont want to be depressed or on drugs i diont want his personality i just want to be me you know. I dont know what to do really i wana stop thinking about him but from previous episodes on aniexty i know pushing a thought away is not going to help at all.

so should i just over load on it and get to the piont where im sick of it or should i just not worry about it and let it fade naturally.
i could really use some advice please.

[anxiouskathie]

My suggestion would be to add a lot of other music to your mix....you may surprise yourself and find that there are many other bands that you like equally as well, and therefore not obsess over any of them, but enjoy them all! 

[lilmsflynn]

Most of our fixations wax and wane and i'm sure thisoo shall pass. Perhaps get involved in another project for awhile. Try a completely different style of music and soon he may just be an old favourite.

[hogwarts88]

I love Kurt Cobain too. I have things and people I get "obsessed" with. It is easy to get obsessed with him once you think about him. Especially when you feel like you can relate to him. I think what's so hard for you is that, you're sick of it, but you can't stop thinking about it and you don't even enjoy it anymore. I'm "obsessed" with Harry Potter obviously, but I don't not enjoy it. lol What is it like? are you continuously thinking about him so much that it is consuming your life? Are you finding yourself only thinking about him and there's no room for anything else? Is it interfering with school/work? I can relate to that a bit when I was struggling with anorexia. I could not stop thinking about food and calories. I literally couldn't think about anything else. I can proudly say that I overcame that. It took a long time. I thought there would never be a day when I wouldn't be able to count calories or think about food. I don't now. and it is so freeing. All I can say is that I just kept working on it. I think once I accepted that I had the problem, it eventually became easier to dismiss the thoughts until they eventually faded away. Maybe try every time you think about Kurt try not to let it upset you. Remind yourself it's just a silly obsession. Wish I could give better advice. Keep us updated.

xo

[mantooth]

Everyone has kicks of being really into a musician/band. You'll be into something else soon, not that you'll not like Nirvana anymore, just your focus will shift.

[Arya12]

Instead of listening to music so much i think you should focus on other activities and with time this will pass. Go biking, read a book, go see movies with friends.

[KAZ2Y5]

For five and a half years I was obsessed with James Marsters (guy from "Buffy). I know, silly, right!?

Sometimes we have obsessions with people or things for the simple fact that they provide us with comfort. Thinking about them, looking at pictures, listening to their music; all of that is something the puts you in a good place and makes you feel good. Things like that can make you feel safe.

For whatever reason, we as humans, tend to fixate (as several other posters said). We find something that fills us with joy and we latch on. This isn't a bad thing and sometimes it can aid in mental healing, or provide us with a safe-haven. However, if it's getting in the way of your life, maybe it's time to find a way out!

If you are comfortable with your "obsession", let it be. Don't become a hermit because of it, or anything, but don't force it out of your life just because "other people" think it's odd. Maybe you need Kurt's music right now and it's OK.

[blacksheep]

I know what you mean by your obsession with Cobain. I used to be fixated on Syd Barrett, and I couldn't shake it for a long time. In my childhood it was things like Lord of the Rings, where I went a little bit overboard with my passion for it.
These fixations seem to have faded as I get older, but I used to just tolerate them. If they weren't bothering me, then I found comfort and enjoyment from it. I tried to set limits, at least, to when I could participate in an activity involving my fixations. I also tried to make the most of it, and did school projects on my passions.
Sometimes I got completely exhausted and upset and didn't enjoy it anymore, and the first time that happened, I had my mother on hand to discuss ideas with me on how to keep it in its place. I set specific times when I was allowed to read about the subject, and then after that time, let it go. I tried not to worry about the thoughts, so long as I could at least not study the subject to death. I tried to put it aside and get involved in other activities, until eventually my interests started to broaden and release.
I seem to not get fixated anymore unless it's triggered by trauma or stress in my life. Maybe it's good to take care of yourself and get plenty of rest, try not to add any extra stresses into your life. Find a recreational activity that you can throw yourself. Reading used to stop the thoughts for a while for me. Write letters to yourself about your obsession, keep a journal. That way, you have an outlet for it.

blacksheep