You make perfect sense. I know because this is exactly how I feel.
This feeling didn't really hit me after graduation though. When I graduated, I didn't really feel unsettled. I just felt some kind of a void.
I didn't know what to do with all the free time I had that used to be filled with going to class and studying. I didn't know what to do with myself. It had really been a huge part of my identity. Plus I have a very hard time adjusting to any kind of change. I knew that work would follow and I was having alot of anxiety about that.
I guess after a while though I started getting a feeling of being unsettled. I'm not sure exactly why. Maybe it has something to do with me taking a path that isn't exactly right for me, a path that is just ok. But I often have a very hard time determining what exactly is a good fit for me. I just pick something that seems to be right, and then once I'm on that particular path, it's hard to change. Then it's like I'm just there, kind of going through the motions. It feels as though you are constantly going "against the grain" in your life. I feel like I don't really know where I belong, and what path I need to take in order to feel more at peace in my life. Actually, none of the options that I can think of seem appealing. I am just clueless about what is truly best for me. Maybe I need to do some further exploration. I've never really been on my own. What you did when you went out on your own was a good move. I'm surprised it didn't help you out more. I often count on that move to help me out tremendously. That is, once I actually have the courage to take that step. I have alot of problems with anxiety and never think that I can actually make it on my own.
Anyway, going back to the feeling of being unsettled. It's not a good feeling at all. In my opinion, it comes from not being in tune with who you really are. You kind of feel estranged from yourself. Do you tend to be a people pleaser? That is one of my biggest problems. I am very easily swayed by other's opinions and many times give up what I truly want in order to please others. Doing this for so long has caused me to completely lose touch with who I am. I don't know what I really want. I just know what others want for me. I am having a very hard time reconnecting with myself. Maybe this is why I am getting that unsettled feeling: I am not on a path that is a good fit for me and I am not in tune with my true self. I feel very disconnected from who I really am.
For me, what has been working is, first of all, going to therapy, and secondly, changing my negative inner dialogue. If you really tune in to things you tell yourself, you'll find that often it's negative and very self-defeating. It is not easy, but VERY possible to change that negative dialogue and start saying positive things to yourself. For example, instead of, "there's no way I can do this", tell yourself, "I am just as capable of doing this as anyone else and will do a great job!" Instead of, "oh they don't like me", say, "I didn't purposely do anything wrong to hurt these people, I am a great person, and if they don't like me, so be it. I can find plenty of people who do actually like me to be around". Don't let others define who you are. Only you can define who you are. Don't give them permission to make you feel bad about yourself.
Changing your thinking will take work initially and will be very mentally draining, bc if you think about it, you are having to undo negative thought patterns that have been taking place for so long. Realize that is is often easy to slip back into your old ways of thinking, which is why it's very important to persist and not get discouraged (and I am saying this bc I get discouraged very easily when things seem overwhelming and I don't get results quickly enough, haha!) Believe me it is worth all the effort bc the results are great. You will be surprised at how much control you can actually have over your thinking (which I didn't think was possible), and therefore your mood. Don't let them control you, you take the control!
Anyway, this is what worked for me. I still struggle though. But I've definitely improved.
I think that whenever you are unhappy it is a sign to roll up your sleeves and do some hard work to turn things around. From this point, things can only get better. So be positive!
Oh and I just noticed how long it's been since someone has posted a reply, so maybe you're all better now and this is all irrelevant to your current situation. I just happened to google, "why do I feel so unsettled?" and came across this post. Well anyway, it sure did help me to write all this, haha. But if you do happen to read this by some chance, plz lemme know how things are.