relationship problems when anxiety is high?

[adamb]

i consider myself a recovered person from my extreme anxiety, but as anyone who has been recovered will tell you that anxiety never fully goes away, and sometimes pops back up in life at random times.

so my question is, has any of yall had problems with your wives/husbands/gfs/bfs because of it, and if so what exactly is the problem?
my problem right now is i have just started a relationship with my new girlfriend and the last two weeks have been amazing and i found myself complelely obsessed with her but today when my anxiety flaired up it was like all that was put on mute. I still really like her and everything i just dont feel the need for her like i usually do.
anyone?

[lou_]

Hmm thats weird? I'm guessing because she is jsut a new girlfriend, you don't want her to get too involved with your personal issues too much right now, so you've been quite distant.

I'm the opposite, when my anxiety is high, i want to be with my boyfriend, whenever i'm with him, my anxiety calms, i feel quite safe with him.

I think you should talk to your girlfriend about it, she'll understand :)

[ocdengineer]

I found that my fear of commitment and anxiety cause me to distance myself from people when they get too close.  It is very hard for me to make a deep connection to someone, so I almost always go through a very anxious period right after the blissfull love stage and then things calm down to a normal relationship, for me at least.  I know when I met my wife, I knew from the moment we met that I was going to marry her.  Anxiety caused havoc in our early relationship due to stress and self doubt, but that thought that I had when I first met her never died and I knew and know that she is the one for me.  She accepts me for who I am, anxiety and all, and I can't tell you how much that means to me.  I guess my advice is to give it time and see what happens.  If it is meant to be it will be.

Take care,
OE