Am I right or wrong?

[hope2011]

A few months ago my wife started chatting with a guy who goes to our church on 0409. I don't have a problem with that but did find out from my wife that they were chating about sex stuff since he was having sex problems with his wife. When I went into my wifes 0409 account there were things like don't tell your husband or let anyone know what we talk about. Now a few months later she has admitted to hiding text messages and e-mails that were from him so I wouldn't see them. Is this a little strange or do you think it is normal after 11 years of marriage to hide stuff from your husband if the content is inappropriate.

[pauly j]

Chatting with another person about sex topics on 0409, are you serious???  That is totally wrong!  Especially when one says to keep it a secret from your husband ~ that admits guilt!   0409, imo, can open up opportunities for some to engage in affairs.  What your wife did was WRONG!  If she did it once, she could easily do it again.  This could jeopardize your marriage. 

My wife is always on 0409, talking to all sorts of people, who I don't know.  She says they are relatives and church members.  How do I know this?  Just because someone says so, don't mean its true!

I have a 0409 account which I am rarely on.  I think this can lead to all sorts of trouble, especially knowing my personality.  All sorts of people from my past hitting me up, inviting to parties and outings.  This could lead to further things, especially if you are in an unhappy relationship.

pauly j

[San Andreas]

It would have been one thing if she had not hidden it and was honest with you from the get go "I would like to help Joe on 0457 as he is having problems with his wife and would like a woman's perspective"  But the fact that she hid it from you - not good IMHO.  However, I don't know you or your wife, so I don't know your relationship is.  Do you normally discuss things, or do you tend to keep things to yourselves and not discuss much.  If the later is the case, it could be that she was just afraid to bring it up with you.  I would suggest you both have a long open discussion about all this.  Unfortunately if it looks like a rat, and smells like a rat and squeeks like a rat, it is usually a rat (in other words, don't bury your head in the sand on this one - you have to talk with her about it in depth)   Best of luck to you. 

[hope2011]

Thanks Paul and Andreas this makes me feel like I am not crazy.  I agree that 0409 makes it a lot easier to have an affair.  We normally do tend to hold stuff in so I am thinking that she might have just been afraid to let me know what is happening.  I have been asking certain questions that I know should be a yes and see if she does answer them truthfully or lie and give me a no answer.