fear of writing/eating in front of others

[itsjustme]

I have anxiety over having to write or eat in front of people. I'm afraid my hand will shake & I'll look like a weird...which, of course, my hand does start to shake. I have it more with writing, not so much eating. It's the stupidest thing. I'm sick of it. I don't want to go the rest of my life worrying about when the next situation will pop up where I'll have to write with someone staring at me. For example, I've quit using my credit card because I don't want to sign the receipt in front of the cashier.

I know it's irrational. I know that no one is judging me. I know that even though my hand does start to shake that no one really cares that much, they don't go home thinking about me or anything. But it still makes me feel like the biggest freak. I have to make up excuses like, "sorry, I'm not feeling well today" or "I've had a really tough day." Ugh........

[pippip]

I worry about eating in public and shaking ALOT. I know others aren't judging me too, but i still worry about it i dont know why. If i catch someone looking at me its probably just a glance but it makes me so uncomfortable. And when the waitress comes back to ask how i'm doing i'm always chewing or in the middle of a bite I hate that i wish they would just leave me alone sometimes lol. I have no advice really sorry , but your not alone =) Also your not a freak! Don't ever say that there's no such thing as a freak. I'm sure many people share this fear with you.

[suki43]

Hi Guys,

I actually think that these rudimentary fears to do with "functioning" whether it's eating, going to pee and writing are all explained by the fact that our anxiety makes us feel vulnerable and we don't want to feel exposed. You're trying to hide your anxiety or are afraid others will notice it.

The fact is noone knows you or about how anxious you're feeling, so next time you have a mouthful of food - just nod your head or give the waitress a thumbs up.

I have to take clients out on lunches sometimes, and I always order something that is physically easy to eat. Never had spaghetti on a business lunch or date!

It's simply about adjusting to your own comfort levels.

Suki