Just Found this group

[Hushed]

Hello Everyone.

I stumbled onto this program by chance on research, and I am glad I did.

It is  a shame that it is not more known in the community.

This is my first day. I will introduce myself, but, since I am a mother with a troubled teen, and we are enmeshed as her doctor says, you will learn that what happens to her directly effects me.

My daughter has had one of those lives, we see in movies and enjoy because as we watch we become aware, we are lucky it was not us.

Victim we avoid, survivor we hope to be.

A month into her birth, I discovered the man I married, was not the man I married. Drug dealing using us as fronts, the extent of the betrayal grew in dimensions over time. We escaped when she was seven. Then came the abuser mode of if you leave I destroy you. I never expected him to destroy her too, but, he tried to.

Huge custody battle. Kidnapping. Battery. Etc. Stalkings. That was over, then at nine, vulnerable from the battle her step grandfather would molest her. She kept it a secret to avoid court. At 12, she attempted 0119. The secret was told to me. There went all family connections.

Again, vulnerable, she would be eyed by a young man at school who we later learned, was on his third known stalking. My daughter. Overnight, we were thrust into life and death situations. Finally had him arrested, and she would go undercover to nab him. Courts changed her name for her protections. Only to have the sheriff display it across the internet just years later.

Peace at last we thought.

No. In 2004, we got a call. Check the newsbroadcast. We would learn her favorite Aunt, and her favorite nieces, were killed in a rollover drowning. Now we faced going to a three family funeral to face off all the relatives hiding the molestations and the dirty secrets.

More. In a month her father would be hit by a car while she sat. Injuries.

Not enough. Just last year, as we were going through more therapy, five years non stop, we get a subpoena. The stalker had struck again. While on her probation. Now we faced over six months of sit and weight. Did I mention the three hurricanes that hit us in a 12 month period?

Reactions set in. She faced him off, then jumped a grey hound bus. We found her hundreds of miles away. Then, she would be arrested for shoplifting. First offense of any kind, and then, finally in November she would once again attempt 0119 just weeks prior to testifying.

She has been diagnosed with severe depression and Post Traumatic Stress.

Myself. It has been one of the most agonizing times of my life. Not what happened but watching what happened to her, and fighting every step of the way to stop all that did. I am battle worn, weary soul, and determined to make changes. For other children and parents.

In the process of the Subpoena, I would loose my job over it. Second job the stalker was able to take.

I finally gave up my six year relationship with my boyfriend. He had become detached and cold and unsympathetic over the events, since they did not seem to let up as each year went by.

So where does that leave me right now?
The mother of a troubled and frightening teen (will she recover, or will she not), unemployed, unloved, exhausted, yet holding onto the torch that says as a parent you can not give up at any time, just as likely having symptoms of PTSD as she, since we both experienced the events, but, unlike her, I can not crumble.

I have my faith, but, it takes energy at times to even hold onto to faith.

So hello everyone and how are YOU?

Hushed

[apple]

I hear your pain...my daughter was molested by her cousin, only most of my family is on her side thank god...it's only been a year and a half and she is now 10 but things are doing great, I understand how you can't be weak and you must endure for her, maybe you can find some comfort here.  Life sure has delt some inocent people a lot of crap...

Keep hangin on
Apple

[mbabynz]

My heart goes out to you.i can feel your frustration as i have had very similar things happen in the past 5 years.how do we cope?why do we cope? list goes on and on and on my thoughts are with you.
cheers
mbabynz