Emotions and GAD? HELP!! Need advice!!

[Jewelee]

Hello, I'm new here and have been browsing through the various posts.. the topic of emotions is why I chose to join this forum and try and find out more.  My boyfried has GAD and just the other night we had a long talk about his "emotions", I'm not sure if I can explain this properly but here it goes.....
We've been together for a year and a half and he still can't say that he loves me, he cares about me in a huge way and he wants to be with me but he just can't say those words, he can say them to his family but not to anyone else.  So the other night we got talking about this and he really does thing something is wrong with him isn't sure what to do about it.  Apparently he's always been like this.  I've told him many time that I love him.. regardless if he has GAD or not.. I don't care it doesn't bother me.  He is on 20mg of Paxil a day and his doctor told him that is a very small dose for a guy his size.. I suggested that he go talk to someone and I really believe that it would help for him to talk to a non biased person that doesn't know him like me or his family do.  We have great times together and I know he cares a lot about me or we wouldn't be together.  Like every other person I would really like to hear him say he loves me... but I don't want him to say it if he doesn't mean it.. and I know he won't say it unless he means it.  He has troubles with emotions and I know he has to help himself... if there is anything I could do... Trust me... I would do it in a second for him to feel better... We thought it may be the Paxil that it doing this, he's been on daily 20mg dose for a little less then a year now and I hate to say it but even our intimate life has suffered quiet a bit... I'm trying to deal with this and be understanding but there are days I have doubts wether he wants to be with me or not.. he says he does and that he's happy with me.. he's worried about me not being happy.. I'm so sorry I'm rambling right now but I'm trying to learn as much as I can about this because I want to understand as much as I can and be supportive without letting my self esteem get affected.  I know he wants to be with me but sometimes it's hard not to feel upset about this whole thing.  Has anyone had experiences with this?  Thanks for listening!!
Jewel.....

[Mikem]

I'm not really sure i can offer good advice here. I can tell you a story about myself but I've never seen myself from an out side perspective... It's hard to say what the problem is when you aren't speaking to the person with the problem. I'm not very good with relationships anyway... but I do hope you can find your answers here.
Sorry i couldn't be much help.

[Jewelee]

anyone??  is there not anyone out there that can relate to this?????   

[Mikem]

Well.. I've had and still have a fear of commitment, that is what it sounds like to me but the length of time you two have been together that doesnt seem too likely but it's still a possibility. When I am in relationships... I have to get out, because the feeling is so intense. I usually find the girls I'm looking for.. but.. there has just always been something there that keeps me from having meaningful relationships with them... it could be my own anxiety but i doubt it.

[lamy12]

Hi there.....what does he want out of the relationship.  Maybe he is not looking to be that serious at this point in his life.  Is he trying to stabalize his condiiton?  If so...that's probably all he can deal with.  My husband is bipolar and sometimes it's all he can do to deal with himself.  To give you some advice....I need more info.