OCD in relationships

[jennmarie]

I keep realizing that I have such a harrd time letting things go in my relationship lately and I feel like its a compulsion to worry about the things I worry about (which are small things that my mind leads into ultimate ending relationship things). I can talk to my bf about my fears and how I feel and then wehn I don't see immediate change I feel like I start worrying myself into where I need to retalk about the same issue because if I don't nothing will change.  I really don't know what to do about this but I don't want to lose my relationship by being so hard on it. I just always get scared of being let down and giving that person control to try and fix things, so I'm constantly worrying that they will let me down and I will be hurt.its like a visiouc cycle in my head of worry, and then I worry that I'm worrying way too much and its driving them crazy and that I will eventually just be alone because no one can handle me worrying. Ugh does anyone else feel this crazy in their relationships with ocd?

[CCgirl1973]

Yes it is very frustrating.  I am constantly worried when I am in a relationship that things are going to happen.  Unfortunately because of past relationships. I have no trust either so I obsess about other woman that my boyfriend is talking to or texting etc. 

[jennmarie]

Its really frustrating and I know what you mean about having the past creep in and then you just start assuming. I don't have trust issues with the guy I am with now (thank god), we have both experienced the same kind of BS in previous relationships, but he lives 3 hours away and when we don't see each other every weekend, I start psyching myself out that something is wrong and then have to have him reassure me and tell me how he feels even though I know nothing has changed.

[CCgirl1973]

Maybe you can write down all the good things about your relationship and the positives about this new BF.  Then when you start getting worried you can look at the list to try to calm yourself down.  Just a thought...Maybe I should try it myself LOL.