lying

[markidee]

I have slowly begun to realize how my lies--founded in shame--have been a great cause of the burden of GAD. I have been ashamed of myself, my beliefs, my family, my friends, my abilities...and so became a great teller of tales. I'd tell stories about my travels to strangers on planes. I'd lie about the size of the wave I caught, the GPA I earned, the number of gals I dated.

The more I am honest (1) with myself, (2) to others, the less burdened and confused I generally feel. addressing issues, confessing faults, confronting my past--all of these things seemed like a monsters I could never face.

At bottoms, I have begun to tell the truth to more people, face brutal facts, and have been surprised by "the incredible lightness of being." Lies are soul-chains.

Please note: I am not saying your anxiety is caused by lying. These are "me" statements. I know there are many reasons for this cunning, baffling illness. It's just one experience that has slowly (and continues) to lift itself. The monsters in the dark is afraid of one true word.

Thanks, in advance, for any shared experiences.

[camel]

Hi

I get what you are saying. lying doesnt cause anxiety but it certainly adds to it, wondering whether one of your lies are going to be discovered, can make anxiety much worse.
I found much relief when i stopped lying to myself about drinking alcohol, and also by being honest with my friend about why i didn't ever want to go anywhere, because i am agoraphobic
 

[Carryon]

An intriguing premise,indeed. Sad to say mendacity and guile seem to be the lubricant for our celebrity and materialistic culture. Image goes a long way in getting ahead. Not fair, not right, maybe, but the way it is.

Maybe you are too hard yourself compared to others?

When is lying bad? Some say only when the truth is important to the other person. No harm no foul.