I'm sad....

[conquerer]

soooo i'm sad and would like some advice if anyone has any?...

i'm a single mom, and two years ago i met an amazing guy that i thought was truly going to be the one. he was sweet, handsome, charming, terrific with my daughter, a fellow christian, and best of all was head over heals in love with me! i never thought i would meet or ever even deserved to meet someone like him, but i was blessed. why is it that those feelings have to inevitabley pass away? two years later, and we barely talk anymore...he's been there for me through all of my anxiety which coincidentally started when i met him. and he stayed and loved me through it all...but lately things have changed. he's different, i'm different. we've both grown more, and in effect we've grown apart. we've been through a lot together: from living together, to moving out (to wait for marriage); from strong intimacy (if you know what i mean ;), to being abstinent for the lord, and we were both recently baptised and devoted our lives to christ. we fight of course, no more than every other couple does...but things have just changed. he no longer looks at me the way he used to, he doesn't talk to me or open up to me, he is not the same with my daughter (and that really hurts), he doesn't care as much about seeing me, or making any effort in the relationship. GUYS: is this just a man getting comfortable and taking our relationship for granted, or could it be something else? *it trust him implicitly, so that's out of the question.* LADIES: i know there are some women out there who may be able to relate to this, can you offer some advice?

i'm so confused, and i don't know what to do. i'm a strong woman and i have my lord, so i know if worse comes to worse my daughter and i will be fine. i think we've fallen out of love with each other. it sucks. but i know i'm not happy, and i deserve to be happy and with someone that LOVES me, and i mean LOVES me...is that ridiculous? yes, i'm a hopeless romantic! but i want that song of solomons kind of love, you know what i mean?! am i just being over-dramatic, and should i just settle for a mediocre kind of love?

thanks to whoever responds, be blessed.

love,
erin 

[lt33]

Hey Erin,

It could be just passing clouds, as there are in all relationships. No one should settle for a lesser love. Try to understand what's really going on before doing something about it, talking with him about it. What has he to say? People change.

[apple]

That kind of Love you want is real !!  It took me 28 years and 2 kids bfore I found it.  4 years later, married and still lovin like God made us for each other.

Talk to your guy.  Was it mutual moving out and abstaining?  Do you think this may be bothering him more than he originally thought it would?  I think you should find out from him whats changing.  Dont get me wrong, I'm not knocking your choices..maybe its not about this at all.  You need to talk to him hun.  Maybe you both can remedy it..maybe you cant.

Dont ever believe you cant have that pwoerful Love!! Never!!  If I did, I would not be so happy now...and neither would my kids.  Once you believe its not possible, you will never find it.

Let us know how it goes 

[conquerer]

thanks lt and apple, you guys are the best. well, we actually have ended the relationship...but who knows what the future has in store for us? I certainly don't, and I'm not going to try and act like I do. right now I am just going to take this time alone to grow in the Lord, finish school, and focus more on my daughter and our future. there's just been too much unecessary worry and stress over this relationship recently, and i need a break from that. oh man...I do miss him, and I do love him though...but i have faith that the Lord knows whats best for me and if we are meant to be together we will be brought together again. not anytime soon though...I definitely need some time. i hate the second-guessing though, because what if I made a huge mistake and I will never meet anyone like him again? and what if he meets and falls in love with someone else pretty quickly, and we don't ever have another chance together? so many questions, so little answers. we'll see what happens......

[apple]

Sorry to hear the relationship stalled out. 
You are right tho...take care of you right now.  Once you got yourself right, you will know if this relationship is the one you want back.  If he moves on rather soon, it wasnt meant to be.  When we are ready, God will show you who is right for you, then every heartache you have ever felt will hurt you no more.  You will be blessed.