need some advice

[racheal19]

I'm a 19yr old Female i have just recently been put on anxiety medication.. the medication is going to take at least 30 days to work completely but i cant handle the jealousy of my boyfriend hanging out with girls or even talking to them.. and when i know he is i get depressed and start getting anxiety attacks.. what can i do to prevent this?

[o-ren]

Hi,

I do not know if there is proper way to prevent what you are experiencing.  It would be wise though to stop talking to your boyfriend so you will not get your attacks.  Does that make sense?

God bless.

[racheal19]

yes it does thats what people have been telling me.. just get rid of him hes just making things worst .. i believe that hes the reason i have developed GAD.. but I'm afraid of being alone and cant over come it.. also does anyone else get panic attacks when they think about death or even if it is mentioned?

[Eunni]

Absolutely, thats called "existential anxiety"

I started getting it before I was 10

[racheal19]

what do u do to surpress it?

[o-ren]

I think the best way to overcome anxiety is to accept it not supress it.  Supression only makes things worst by holding it in.  Learn to let it go and you will be free.

[racheal19]

I'm trying to learn to overcome it.. i have at least one or two anxiety attacks a day.. i could be in the best mood one minute and the next I'm going off on everyone and get panic attacks to the point were i have trouble breathing and my chest tightens up..

has anyone ever been on buspirone?

[Maggie]

Your boyfriend didn't cause your anxiety. He is merely where your symptoms choose to manifest themselves. Some relationships will serve you better than others but the anxiety is yours. The great part about owning your illness is that you can also own your health.

[gloomy]

I think when the meds start to ick in you will start to feel some relief with the jealousy, some jealousy is natural when we love someone but I understand you feel yours is at a higher level thats upsetting you.  Have you ever thought about psychotherapy to talk about your feelings and maybe try and establish where some of the extreme jealousy may have manifested from?

Good luck and god bless

[Baker1]

As gloomy mentioned, some jealousy is a normal response that we all possess, but how we respond to those feelings varies widely from person to person.

You must understand that, when it comes to love and attractions you can’t control the feelings of others. You can only control your feelings. Stop beating yourself up worrying if your boyfriend is going to be attracted to another.

Always remember that, if he truly loves you those other girls mean nothing and if he does cheat on you, there was nothing you could have done or changed that would have stopped it. It would be his loss and know that he wasn’t worth your time or effort.

You’re 19 and you have your entire life ahead of you. If he turns out not to be the one, there will be many, many more. Trust me.