Sad today....

[crazygirl1]

 :(So usually I post on the HA part, today I am here because of my relationship with my husband. I feel like I"ve gotten my HA in check a little bit & am looking into reasons for it. I think it's partly because of my relationship with him, the other part due to the aweful pain of losing my mother. So there I said it, my marriage is in trouble, my husband is "untalkable" i call it-I can't talk with him-he does'nt listen anymore, doesnt care about doing anything to make me feel loved or secure...just doesnt care. I really feel like he's still there because of our 3 yo, as I am I think...I just feel like I"m pretty low and that's not how I want to raise my child. I want the best for her and I'm not sure what that is anymore. I was raised in a very religious family-no divorce...blah blah blah and I'd like nothing more than to be able to say I stuck it out & we worked thru it, but I can't do it alone. I just want to cry. Now that I'm not constantly checking my moles for cancer or something the focus shifts back to the relationship issues. I wouldnt even know how to make it on my own with a 3 yo & 2 dogs-because I just dont know that I could afford it. Course I could take care of the dogs & my child-but ...see now my mind is starting to feel cloudy-becuase this is too much to think about. ANyway else out there have a less than perfect marriage??

[abaggett2]

I am sorry you are sad today.  You said you grew up religious, are you still talking to God and asking for his guidance?  Does you husband believe?  If so, maybe you two could go talk to your pastor or someone from the church and ask for their outside opinion.  Some days I feel like my relationship with my husband suffers a lot becuz of my anxiety and me not wanting to go out to eat or go shopping.  But I try to make sure that my husband knows that I love him and appreciate all he does for me. 
Please find a friend or someone to talk to and also I will send a prayer up for you.  Take care and God bless.

[crazygirl1]

awww thank you. Yes my husband believes, though not like I do. Neither of us attends a church, but he really shies away from prayer or talking about God...so speaking with a pastor isnt going to happen, thanks though.
I feel that my anxiety is doable to start with , but throw in my relationship issues & it creates the HA. So it isnt my anxiety causing the relationship issues.
I've been praying, I've been asking God to show me the way for years now it seems.  I dont understand, God hates divorce, but does that mean he would want me to suffer thru this relationship ? I know things could be worse, so I shouldnt complain, I do have my health today, my family's health..so thats all that should matter.....

[surfmonkey]

Hey crazygirl :) well my marriage is less than perfect! I'm going through what I feel is a distance with my husband right now. Just like your husband he doesn't wanna talk about things, he ignores me a lot, and put materialistic possessions before me. I'm married to an amazing man but he's so good at being distant. Your husband not making you feel secure is a huge problem. I told my man I was leaving if he didn't wanna appreciate me the way I should be appreciated. He basically ignores me and pays more attention to other stuff bc he's so stressed out and he just needs an escape. Its not right but its true. Maybe your man is having some stress and he doesn't know how to cope. Then he's just shutting down. If he didn't want you then he would have said something ya know? Just try and find a way you think you'll get through to him. Don't stay because your scared! Its ok to be scared!! But treat yourself and your child the way you guys deserve I'm sure you can do this! Just don't let fear stop you from helping yourself and your doggies and your little one :)