girlfriend cheated...im gonna die

[jthami03]

this is the worst I've felt in a long time.
every function is strained.
I can't breathe.
I can't stop retching.
I can't move.

is it possible to die from extreme sadness like this?

[silentsufferer]

if it were possible we'd all be dead

I'm so sorry. It's the yukkest feeling in the world

[jthami03]

very
sorry my post isn't HA related
yall are just kinda my closest friends theses days =/

[gecko]

Really sorry to hear this. Hurts like hell doesn't it? But I didn't die from it. I lost lots of weight, cried every day for 6months, sometimes wished I would just die cos it hurt so bad. But eventually it stops. You'll feel happy again. Hang in there x

[moira]

It must have been written often on this forum, but I am going to write it again: Take things one day at a time.  sometimes it's ONE HOUR at a time, right now you probably feel like it should be ONE SECOND at a time.  Cheating is disgusting, and one day in the future you will realise that you are well rid of this person.  I had six years of hell with my ex-husband.  And now the woman that he went off with is having hell with him - karma.  Do everything that you can do to relax yourself, and seek medical help.  In your photo you look just like my darling son.  I could cry.  All love to you, hang in there! x x x

[danihelxxx]

I agree with above we have to believe that people get there jsut deserves in life. I literelly went through the same last week with my ex cheating scum.. but i cant help but love him still even now. need to except that if i went back it would show my naiivity and i would never trust him again. imagine the anxiety then it would be awful. came very out of the blue and im still adjusting. I feel damaged now, with this anxiety and the cheating it makes you feel twice as bad If you need a vent or a chat just message me i know exactly what your going through!!

PS why do people cheat i dont get it why not be happy with what you have.. the mind boggles.x

[sixpack]

you are not going to die from this.  You ARE going to feel grief, anger, sadness, denial, and finally acceptance (what you do with the acceptance is up to you).  All the physical parts of it are going to be intense.

I'm sorry you are going through this.  {{HUGS}}

[valleyplayer42]

I get all of these feelings just THINKING about my GF cheating, I can't imagine what I'd do if I found out she cheated on me. I don't know if I have other mental problems besides anxiety but sometimes I think that ill go and like kill this guy that she cheats with, literally. Its very strange and I get these strange feelings. I am sorry your going through this, you will make it through, like everyone said it will take a while but its manageable. My GF leaves for stay away college for her 2nd year in 2 weeks , I have to drive her there and unpack her and help move her in, then go home. I'm going to see her like once or twice a month for 8 months, instead of every single day like it used to be for the year and a half. She's going to be partying every weekend, hell probably everyday, there's going to be other guys she's going to see, and meet. All I think about is her thinking there's better looking guys, or getting drunk at parties when I'm not there and hanging out with dudes. Its hard for me for that, I'm very sorry your going through what your going through. Message me man if you need to talk, I'm always available

[jthami03]

thank you all so much. my only solace right now is that im the better person. with all the scum in the world, its good to know im still among the good ones, like all of you. thanks again.

[bababel]

Look, I've been cheated on by ex-boyfriends.  My husband was cheated on by his girlfriends.  One of my closest friends got married TWO MONTHS AGO and her husband has already cheated on her and they are getting a divorce.  Unfortunately, fidelity is hard to come by.  It's the way it is and it's the way it always has been and always will be.  If the person cheats on you, then they are simply not the person you will spend the rest of your life with.  As painful as it is, know that you will eventually find the person who WILL NOT cheat on you.  Dating is a series of failures.  I know it sounds depressing, but it's true.  We have to weed through the crap in order to get to our one true love.  Not worth dying over.  Grieve and mourn then move on.  You will find a wonderful woman. 

Valleyplayer, I have noticed a couple of posts by you lately kind of suggesting that you are afraid that your girlfriend will find someone else when she moves away for college.  I had that exact same fear/obsession when my high school boyfriend moved away for college.  I was sure he would meet someone else and dump me.  Guess what?  I obsessed so much, called him every day and was jealous of every single girl he talked about.  Eventually, my worst fear came true.  He found someone else and dumped me.  You know what all my worrying did to stop the situation?  Nothing.  I just ruined my life worrying.  Then, he broke my heart.  Now that I look back, I am glad we broke up because he wasn't who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.  But all of my obsessing pissed him off and may have help drive him to another woman.  Don't make that same mistake with your girlfriend.  There is also good news.  My husband and I were long distance for almost 2 years.  He lives in the States and I lived in Canada.  We spoke every day on 0366 and on the phone and it was because we loved each other so much and were secure in our relationship that we didn't allow the distance to break us up.  I let go of the jealous and insecurity that I felt all of my life and now it is the best relationship you can imagine.  We finally live together (since November) and it is the best marriage in the world. 

Things will always work themselves out the way they are supposed to.  Good luck, everyone.  Love always finds you in the end!

[sparkles]

I'm sorry because I had it happen to me too so I know how it feels.  My best advice to you...don't ever take her back.  I don't know if you both broke up or not but cheaters like to have it all.  So they try to cheat and still stay with the person they cheated on.   Someone who cheats is not worth giving another chance....especially if you have anxiety problems.  I know it feels awful and I think it's one of the worst things to get through in life. You didn't deserve it and anyone who cheats on you doesn't deserve you.  They don't have the same morals or human decency.  You can't change that in someone.   Some people can't love and therefore they cannot accept true love. And many times people who cheat fall into that category.  This will in the long run make you stronger and more cautious.  But it's not your fault and try to always remember that.  It will get better slowly but surely.

[ambrocious]

It's going to hurt a lot, but you will pull through this.

I'm sorry that happened to you   I've been through that too, and it is extremely painful and emotionally dehabilitating at times...