Hey there! Thanks for your message. I was in need of some insight about what I feel god may want me to do. I have a friend and I believe that god would agree that the way she makes me feel is wrong. She doesn't do it on purpose. Makes me anxious and makes me feel stupid. But not intended to make me feel that way.I asked god to close the relationship if he thought she was in anyway a threat or someone I shouldn't surround myself with. I told him that if she did not text me the following day then I would know he does not want me to speak with her. She did not reply when I expected her to. Now I don't know if god wants me speaking to her or if it was just because the previous conversation was a bit touchy. What do you think? I don't want to overlook gods opinion at all. He may be seeing something I can't see. Just don't know if god works the way I proposed him to work?? Any opinion you have I welcome.
God bless!
Hi Surfmonkey. That is a tough question, but please allow me to ramble a bit and maybe you can find some answers from what I say. There are different types of prayers and there are different ways that God answers prayers. The type of prayer that you seem to be saying is, "God, I would like to know which decision I should make and since I don't know, please make it for me." We can divide God's will into 2 categories: his hidden, personal will that only He knows for us, and His written, revealed will that He has given us to know freely. I just have to mention that God wants us to be faithful to what has been revealed to us before he gives us the hidden things. But with that said, we, Christians do have the mind of Christ (1 Co. 2:16). Jesus is our mediator and our line connection between us and the Father. The closer to Jesus, the closer to God's will we will be. So really we ought not be so caught up with knowing what that will is that we miss the way and Person that gets us there. The Holy Spirit's desire is to give Jesus glory. So living by the Spirit (the fruits of the Spirit) brings us into a closer relationship with Christ and assures that we are living God's will for us. It can be inferred that if we have the mind of Christ, then in some way, we know His personal, hidden will for us.
I have a good friend and classmate who is always telling me what God said to her and what decisions God told her to make that day. She then says, "I know it's from God, because the devil would never tell me something like that." There is no way I can argue with her differently. The bible says we have the mind of Christ and that God speaks to our hearts and minds. She does point out a good way of recognizing if it is the Lord or not: make sure that it is in allignment with the Revealed will of the Word of God rather than something that Satan would tell you. A person needs to be in fellowship with God for Him to speak to your hearts and minds freely. If you are a Christian, you are saved. Salavation is not something we have to work for. But if you are a Christian, you are not necessarily in fellowship. Fellowship with God is something that we have to work on everyday. Repenting of our sins in Christ and living by the Spirit puts us back in fellowship.
With all of that said, I don't think we should always expect God to answer our prayer of, "What to do now God?" God wants us to make wise decisions with the wisdom He brought us up in, in His Word. He wants us to be independent enough to go and trust Him in our going that He will bring us through whatever future that we are uncertain of. He gave us the tools of making wise decisions from His Word; now we have to just go and make those wise decision and weigh our decisions whether they are in alignment with His word. If they are, then we should just trust that the decision is good. Sometimes the flesh wants us to lie to ourselves about that, but we have to really look deep within and make those decisions based on His word. God Himself is in you; Christ is in you; you are the temple of the Lord; you have the mind of Christ: so you are completely equipped to make wise decisions.
It should also be said that God does answer people in other ways in the bible. Sometimes God's people would sometimes cast lots (similar to drawing straws) to find out what God wants them to do. And God would answer them via that method. I don't recommend that method because I haven't heard of anyone, in the current day doing that. In the OT, God answered through the priest or prophet or even an angel. Answers would come directly or in dreams.
Just looking at what you wrote, I would suggest that someone who keeps making you feel badly is not someone to continue to associate with. But you say she doesn't do it on purpose, so maybe she needs to be educated about your anxiety (I'm assuming). I had people who no matter how much education they had, still put me down, so I knew to disassociate with them.