Hi. I realize your post is a month old, but I wanted to tell you that you are not alone. I've been with my guy for 16 years. I love him very much. About a year ago I started thinking about my ex-husband. I hadn't thought about him at all for many years. The more I thought about him, the more I got anxious and couldn't stop thinking about him. And then of course I felt guilty and felt compelled to tell my boyfriend what I was thinking.
Now I have a new one. someone I dated many years ago, has sent me a ***** message telling me he was sorry about how our relationship ended. Of course, now I can't stop thinking of him and it is driving me out of my mind. I think what is his girfriend like, how do they interact together, you name it, I think it. I do not love this person at all, but can't stop thinking of him.
Just wanted you to know you're not alone. I think that when we have a particular thought that makes us anxious, we feel worse, the anxiety gets worse and it's a vicious cycle. Take care and let's both RELAX!