This is a long post but it is absolutely worth reading.
The last couple of weeks I came to probably the most important realisation of my life so far, and the best thing is it is so simple yet it explains everything about anxiety for me. Anxiety is simply a feeling of dread. Anxiety comes due to a hormone that is released in fight or flight situations. You're either going to run away or fight. It's an emotion that is extremely valuable to us as a species, without it we wouldn't be here today.
What must be understood is that we live in a world where we HAVE to fight to survive. Our very purpose is survival. Here are two very common situations where people must either choose to fight or flee: 1. The work environment. 2. The social environment.
The work environment: Choosing to fight:
By fight I don't mean fists and left hooks, I mean perseverance, dedication, a good strong work ethic. The ability to take criticism and work on it. It requires you to be strong and to believe in yourself, which requires a great deal of effort and commitment. That is the price we must pay if we choose to fight and excel at work.
The work environment: Choosing to Flee:
When we choose to flee from working world because we fear things like hard work, criticism, evaluations then we have a problem. How do we survive without a job? Although it may seem easier to avoid the tough things that the work environment brings in the short term, we still have to live with constant fear of the future and constant anxiety. That is the price we pay for fleeing.
The social environment: Choosing to fight:
In social situations someone may tease you in front of others, oh the embarrassment! How can I deal with that? Well by teasing them back of course. It's all part of the 'fight back' mentality. We will often come across douchebags who have insecurities and will therefore try to prey on the weaker ones of the pack. Truly confident people don't need to do that. Defending yourself from douchebags is the price we pay if we want to be comfortable and confident in the social environment.
The social environment: Choosing to flee:
We all want an awesome group of friends and girlfriend/boyfriend. After all human beings are inherently social creatures, without being social we wouldn't exist today. People with social phobias choose to be loners because they are choosing to run away, but then have to live with constant anxiety and a feeling of emptiness- that is the price they pay for fleeing.
So as you can see it all boils down to a choice. Your anxiety is the result of a choice, be it a conscious or sub-conscious decision. The best thing about choosing the fight-mentality is that it is infinitely better than choosing to flee. Each choice has a price on its head but the difference is that a fighter will reap the rewards whereas those who choose to flee will live unfulfilled and frustrated lives.
To BEAT anxiety you must choose to fight. You must look at everything that scares you and choose to fight that fear.
As a side note, notice how celebrities and sports stars have a constant fight mentality about them. For example Beyonce has created an alter ego on stage by the name of Sasha Fierce. Fierce = fighter. Christina Aguilera released a song called Fighter. Notice when sportsmen and women are interviewed they always focus on the positive and work hard ethic. Go to youtube and type "hilarious andy roddick interview". It's not really hilarious but it does encapsulate everything I have been saying if you watch it till the very end (it's about 4 minutes long I think).
So that's it, that's all there is to it. Don't waste another second and tell yourself that you are a fighter. Choose to fight because ever since I made the change my life has been, quite simply, amazing. I feel strong mentally. I don't worry about the future any more and I have been a lot more successful with the opposite sex which feels great!
Good luck and thanks for reading this far, I hope this post helps you become stronger.