My screwy theory

[lucidangst]

Hey all,

I just joined this forum today, but I feel as though I should let everyone know what I think may cause SAD and avoidance disorder.  I don't think its a chemical imbalance, nor do I think it because people are 'head cases'.  I honestly believe my anxiety is caused by the society I live in.  I am a very sensitive person-- I wear my emotions on the outside so-to-say.  I don't think many people here differ from that, no matter how anti-social.  The only reason we feel the way we do is because the rest of society are a bunch of back-stabbing, selfish, egotistical, greedy, hateful, spiteful, sob's who care only about themselves and their own gain in life-- not about anyone else.  This is the complete opposite of how I live my life, and I feel as though my SAD and avoidance may not be a illness, but a realization of how awful the world, or at least society, can be.  Forgive me if I insult anyone-- not my intention.  But its just so easy to rationalize my condition based on how screwed up society is.  Maybe we feel the way we do because we are sensitive and intellegent enough to know what threats are really out there.  I appreciate any feed-back, opposing or otherwise!

[tanya]

AMEN  you have nailed exactly how i feel towards society. i know i care to much about everyone elses happiness i forgot my own. then one day i realized that people use other people for there own gain.

tanya

[apple]

You hit the nail on the head with a sledge-hammer...or so my husband says.
He is not a social guy, he doesn't like gatherings, although he doesn't actually have anxiety because of it.  There are people that don't fit your theory, you know that ( look at you). 
He was alone for 10 years before I came along...the people that knew him for years looked at me like they were looking for "what was wrong with me" to be with him. 
Someone real different will take an interest...ask you what you like and don't like...maybe even your opinion...
Who matters?   The world?  so why do you fret over them anyway?

I truely hope you find your way thru this...I have my own journey that is easy to say, harder to do.

[Airborn]

I dont know what to say.I kind of feel the need to help other ppl over my own problems, and basicly it mostly ends up in the being happy and me being hurt.I agree with everything you said.Maybe those with SAD simply are more emotional ppl ? Cause i noticed many things make me go emotional, sad and soo on.

[mstanya]

Hi,

You guys might be interested in searching on Google under "screwed up people" (this is what i did), and going to a site called "Screwed up blog from a screwed up guy", which is authored by this kid called Bash.  Its hilarious.  I think he might share some of your views about society (from the perspective of a bright teen with attitude.)
I'm brand new to this forum, by the way.  Am not trying to be a smarty-pants or anything - just thought i'd open with a bit of humor (that's if u go to the site.) 
Am a bit of a SAD experiencer - not at the severe end of the spectrum though.

Looking forward to joining the discussions,
Tanya G

[mstanya]

Um, in addition to the last posting, i forgot to say that this kid Bash swears a lot - just a courteous warning!

Regards,
Tanya G

[veggi3]

hi all
i'm new to this site, found it by accident whilst looking for a new job
i know its been a long time since the last post but i just had to comment on this subject because i have suffered first hand at people behaving just as described in post quote 'bunch of back-stabbing, selfish, egotistical, greedy, hateful, spiteful, sob's who care only about themselves and their own gain in life-- not about anyone else' unquote
i was bullied in school and have suffered from anxiety attacks for many years always struggling with self confidence and wonder sometimes how i have managaged to reach the level of employment that i have 'managing a team' so you can understand why i am so impressed with this post and your deduction of people - i couldn't have described them more acurately
did you have an experience that prompted your visit and posting

[PEACEMAN]

HI,
THIS IS THE REAL ANSWER TO MY SOCIAL ANXIETY DISORDER, I HAVE ALWAYS THOUGHT IT AND BELIEVED IT WITH ALL MY HEART AND TO HEAR SOMEODY ELSE SAY THIS HAS REALLY WOKEN ME UP THIS MORNING. BUT IF ITS TRUE THEN WHAT NEXT?.....I DON'T HAVE AN ANSWER .
I GUESS WE JUST GO ON THROUGH LIFE FIGHTING AGAINST ALL THE CHANGES WE SEE AND HATE- AND LIVING AND WORKING WITH PEOPLE WHO SEEM TO HAVE NOTHING BUT THEIR OWN INTERESTS AT HEART. I SEE ME AND ALL OF YOU AS THE BRAVE ONES IN THIS WORLD, WE DO WEAR OUR HEARTS ON OUR SLEEVE AND SEEM TO WANT TO CONVEY THIS TO THE WORLD I THE HOPE THAT OTHERS WILL FIND PEACE FROM OPENESS, I KNOW MYSELF I WANT TO TRY AND CHANGE THE WROLD PERSON BY PERSON BUT AM TOO AFRAID TO APPROACH PEOPLE TO EVEN START BECAUSE OF PPL'S ATTITUDES TODAY, ID PROBABLY GET CALLED A HIPPY OR A WIERDO.
THANKS LUCIDANGST FOR POSTING YOUR THOUGHTS, IHAVE POSTED MINE NOW AND HOPE TO HEAR FROM THE REST OF US ABOUT WINNING THIS WAR.
PEACEMAN

[apple]

You know when someone says...I met someone today that really is nice, what a miracle!!!  Someone may be talking about one of us :)  when we go out of our way for someone.

It is awful out there, and people kick you down for thier own gain...but occasionally, there is an angel amongst them.  I believe this...when I do something for someone, i get into trouble and someone helps me!!  its cool.  But if I dont do something for someone, when I get into trouble, no one helps.  This is the honest truth.

There are diamonds in the rough...

[toblerone]

I have been bullied so much at various jobs.  I have been forced out of my last job by bullying bombastic bosses one of them is so religious.  I am considered a very nice person.  I put in long hours at most of my jobs.  Many bosses were very grateful.  But for this last boss, no matter how much I did it was never enough and then the doctor said to me, you are not going back there.  I am disappointed to end my work life this way.  I just do not understand why people are mean.  It is so much easier to be nice.

[Rach]

I think that is true actually although i do think there are still a lot of nice people out there but most i meet tend to be narrowminded and judge anyone that doesnt look exactly the way they would want them to. Ive never actually been bullied, of course ive had a few comments here and there and had a hard time with my family but apart from that i dont know what could have caused me to develop my SAD.