im having a really bad day i just got back from the dentist

[Tina20]

so i want to this dentist in town.... and i showed him the bump on my mouth.... and he did an x-ray..and he said there wasnt anything wrong with my tooth....

then he saii d wait a week and go to the oral surgen.   

the dumb lady that worked there said ok 55 dollars..... and i said i dont have money right now because the lady on the phone said i dont have to pay it right now..and she said "well when u pay the 55 dollars thats when i will refer you to the oral surgen....


SO TODAY WAS A WASTE OF MY TIME..AND IM NOT ASSURED AT ALL..AND now i have to find 55 dollars to give them so i can go to the oral surgen to see what this is....ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

im so mad....i dont get why i need a referal its so stupidd....

i asked the doctor if its cancer and he said " nahh its not' im like are u sure? he said "not 100% sure"

hes such a worthless peice of crap.... i hateeeeeeeeeeee him... i was there like for 10 minutes... and he asked for 55 dollars, and he wont even refer me to the oral surgen until i pay him... its like i dont have the money right now just bill me later..and they wont do that..so i dk what to do ( i just want to have this white bump checked out cuz i cant sleep over this..

ALL THEY CARE ABOUT IS MONEY THEY DONT EVEN CARE ABOUT MY HEALTH

[Jenfr8801]

UGHHHH...I know EXACTLY what you are going through.  About 6 months ago, I discovered this red area in my mouth.  It triggered a whole bunch of things for me.  I started at the most awful dentist.  She was so mean....and had no info.  She gave me a perscription for a fungal infection.  That made me panic...big time!!  I spent the next few months on the internet, and crying.

THEN by the grace of God, I was talking to my sister in law about it, and she worked for an oral surgeon.  She got me an appointment.  He saw me and put my mind at ease.  He was able to look in my mouth and say "its not cancer", and "you're not dying".  He referred me to a naturalist type of doc, which I haven't gone because she doesn't accept insurance. 

Sorry for the long post.  I guess my point is, you need to find a good doc.  Can you see different dentist??  I'm sure its not cancer.  The oral surgeon told me I had like little to no risk factors.  I am 33 female, and I don't smoke.  Most oral cancers are males over 65, with a history of smoking and chewing tobacco. 

[Tina20]

people say "go to the dentist...."
so i go to the dentist, and he didnt even tell me anything..


Where do i go from here????????

[Tina20]

UGHHHH...I know EXACTLY what you are going through.  About 6 months ago, I discovered this red area in my mouth.  It triggered a whole bunch of things for me.  I started at the most awful dentist.  She was so mean....and had no info.  She gave me a perscription for a fungal infection.  That made me panic...big time!!  I spent the next few months on the internet, and crying.

THEN by the grace of God, I was talking to my sister in law about it, and she worked for an oral surgeon.  She got me an appointment.  He saw me and put my mind at ease.  He was able to look in my mouth and say "its not cancer", and "you're not dying".  He referred me to a naturalist type of doc, which I haven't gone because she doesn't accept insurance. 

Sorry for the long post.  I guess my point is, you need to find a good doc.  Can you see different dentist??  I'm sure its not cancer.  The oral surgeon told me I had like little to no risk factors.  I am 33 female, and I don't smoke.  Most oral cancers are males over 65, with a history of smoking and chewing tobacco.

So can you tell me about your problem? You said it was a pink bump? What is hard? What was it???

I dont know what to do, I cant stop panicing and freaking out... 

This dentist company are worthless, and they should be SUED

[Czad]

ALL THEY CARE ABOUT IS MONEY THEY DONT EVEN CARE ABOUT MY HEALTH

Welcome to America. I know how you feel. It's really frustrating, I mean where do these people get off charging 55 bucks for a 10 minute visit and referral to a specialist? It's insane I know. Once upon a time I dislocated my knee cap. And after a 4 hour wait in the emergency room (while in excruciating pain), they charged me 1500 dollars for literally a 10 second procedure. They should've paid me after waiting that long.

  US Health Industry

 Just hang in there. I'm sure you're fine!

[Tina20]

yeah its BOGUS..
i dont know how to reassure myself that this isnt CANCER though..
this is what it all boils down to...

i have health anxiety...
and i have to go to the doctor to make sure i dont  have a deadly disease.

this is something that ive always done, ive always gone to the doctor, and i have to keep going to make sure..

cuz i cant sleep at night..
believe it or not im losing sleep over this!! (
and im having nightmares

[sixpack]

I realize you are upset but it is pretty standard that you need a referral to see an oral surgeon.  My daughter had an atonic seizure about 18 months ago that caused her to fall flat on her face.  Her tooth met the hardwood floor first and broke at the gumline.  I called her dentist, who called me back and all that.  She was at a Bills game but said she'd meet us at her office.  I told her that to enjoy the game and we'd go to the ER and see the dentist there to make sure it was a clean break and all that rot.  Long story short she called me later on and told me that she called in the referral for the Oral surgeon.  We got in the next morning to have the remnant removed and her gums stitched up.  My hubby had a bump type thing on his tongue at his last dentist appointment.  The dentist said to watch for a week or so then come back.  If it hadn't healed she would give him a referral to an oral surgeon.

The dentist told you it wasn't cancer.  He is never going to say 100% because that is just the way it is.  NO doctor says 100% anymore.  If you have a long standing relationship with this dentist, he would have likely given you a referral straightaway and just billed you for the $55.  If you were a new patient, it is less likely they would do that.

[Tina20]

Yeah but that doesnt help me.
The reason going there was to help me you know?
Now I have more problems, cuz I have to find the money or else Im going to be losing sleep for a long time.

[sixpack]

But IT should.  the dentist said  " nahh its not' im like are u sure? he said "not 100% sure"



 You are never going to get a 100%, even from an oral surgeon---unless he did a biopsy.  Even then biopsy's have a margin of error.

The thing is with health anxiety you are NEVER ever going to be 100% sure you aren't dying from something.  Medicine is not a 100% assurance.  You can go to doctor to doctor spending money and never get that complete assurance.  In part because a person with health anxiety is going about solving his or her concerns the wrong way. Yes that sucks and yes that can be scary especially for folks with health anxiety.  But, again, that is the way life is most times.  There is no assurance we have tomorrow coming to us.  But if we dwell on that small chance that we are going to die from some blip on our radar screen that can occur daily, then life is going to be pretty, darned dismal.

Honestly, I would take that the dentist said no, while he qualified it with you questioning him, and relax.  Once you've saved up the $55 to pay him for his services, then get the referral.  That is if the bump is still there AND you are still concerned about it.       

[Tina20]

Yeah Im going to do that.

I just dont trust this doctor because he seemed to not know much..

I mean trust me if you would of talked to him, you would of been like how the heck are you a dentist??

He just didnt look too knowledgeable he just seemed like he wanted mOney...
and thats  the scary part.....

he didnt even tell me what it was for crying out loud!!

[Jenfr8801]

So can you tell me about your problem? You said it was a pink bump? What is hard? What was it???

I dont know what to do, I cant stop panicing and freaking out... 

This dentist company are worthless, and they should be SUED
[/quote]

It is a huge red patch on the roof of my mouth.  I have no clue what it is.  The oral surgeon thought it might be a reaction to something.  Something I'm allergic to.  Its not raised...but its red.  Its still there....he told me it was fine, and referred me to this lady that uses a lot of natural things.  BUT, she doesn't take insurance, and it would cost me an arm and a leg....so, here I sit with this thing.  I try not to think about it too much!  You're fine, your doc didn't seem concerned.  If he thought it was serious, he would have given you the referrel stat, and not worried about $55.

[Tina20]

its so hard for me to trust doctors around here, the town i live in is so small. 
and these doctors dont really have much experience.
its so hard on me.

my symptoms are different, mine is just a single bump.  hard.    and white...so who knows...
ive had it for 2 months..and just recently im starting to worry about it