compulsive lying and anxiety

[Nick]

is it possible to have a compulsive lying disorder from having anxiety and depression for a big part of your life. i've been struggling really bad with lies. i'll be talking to somebody having a normal conversation and for no reason ill just say something tht never happened and i hate it and i hate myself for it, but i cant stop. on top of that my mind is just so confused and i still feel extremely zoned out every few seconds it just wont stop.

[loopyfruitcake]

I know how you feel, although i dont think it has anything to do with my anxiety. I do lie, only little white ones, nothing huge but i still wish i didnt do it. It becomes compulsive sometimes. I think its because we want people to like us so maybe we try and make ourselves look more interesting and more exciting in order to attract others. Maybe its because we are unhappy with our lives and wish they were different so welie to pretend they are? Who knows. All i know is that you can stop doing it, you just need to focus on not lying! I do it sometimes, if i let my guard down i come out with something and BANG i've lied! x

[laa43]

Yeah I agree...I don't think compulsive lying has anything to do with anxiety and depression. I think that's its own issue entirely. It's a good thing that you realize it and that you feel badly about it. I think therapy would help y ou address this issue as continuing with the lying could come back to bite ya in the butt one day! Take care! laa

[ImWithLiar]

Hi,

I see that you have troubles saying the truth, and I was wondering if you could help me. I have just discovered that the person I love has hidden things from me, and lately lied to my face.

I need to understand how it works and why he did that, maybe you could help me since he might have your same problem. I'm willing to understand him in order to help us...

Thanks

[Rik]

Lies are a way to manipulate the truth either because the truth is painful, not in alignment with our ego (which can be very low self worth) to obscure things we don’t want to own or gain something we don’t feel like we can get with truth.

It is usually traceable back to family of origin issues.

[Grandma]

Hi Nick -

No, having anxiety and depression for most of one's life does not cause one to become a liar.

This is the sort of thing that gives anxiety and depression a bad name!

(Joke!)

(Only the second part is a joke - the first part is true!)

Love, Grandma

[Sbowers010]

i struggle with that too- sometimes

i will say that someone said something that didnt really happen-

i have come to realize that is me giving myself an opinion in the situation but i have to make someone else say it  either due to me not feeling like I am worthy enough to have an opinion (which i think can come from depression trauma) and also maybe its a little bit of derealization which can be part of depression/anxiety-


so I have to disagree and say that it is tied in together.

start a journal about the things that you do and give yourself a voice (even if it is just to yourself) you may see some of that start to dissapate

sweet thoughts of calm and recovery.

-sarah b.