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Offline soundofaghost

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« on: March 24, 2010, 04:56:05 PM »
so, how's everyone's love life going? or even life in general? but, i would really just want to know how everyone here responds to others you're attracted to. i just always want to punch myself in the face when i become too afraid to talk to someone, especially when it comes to guys. i feel like i've missed some opportunities where i could have gotten to know some nice guys and get into a relationship. but then my fear always seems to get in the way. like today, there's this guy who lives near me. i had the feeling he's liked me for a while and he's come up to talk to me before but i can never go up to talk to him. i just don't know why i can't, i mean he's had the courage to talk to me but i just can't seem to talk to him. have you guys ever had that happen?
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Offline sixpack

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Re: attraction
« Reply #1 on: March 24, 2010, 05:03:08 PM »
sure.  it is tough sometimes approaching the opposit sex. 
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Offline RobertWiggins

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Re: attraction
« Reply #2 on: March 25, 2010, 08:52:48 PM »
It happens to everyone. Just go for it.

Even if you don't know what to say... Eventually you'll get it right!

I personally love it if/when girls come up and initiate conversation with me.
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Re: attraction
« Reply #3 on: March 26, 2010, 02:55:41 AM »
have I ever had that happen? are you kidding me??? :action-smiley-065: i've spent half my life afraid to talk to girls i find attractive. I have no idea why. And it's not that i'm afraid of them rejecting me.

I'm decent looking and there was a time where i could but it's almost not worth it for me because of how nervous it makes me. When I'm talking to them I always get the feeling like I'm making a huge idiot out of myself- go figure.   ;D

If you are able to muster up the courage, go for it. What's the worst that could happen? (easy for me to say :laugh3:)
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Re: attraction
« Reply #4 on: March 26, 2010, 06:39:11 PM »
Hey Sound, I totally understand what you are going through. I used to think that I had issues with intimacy, but recently I found out from my psychiatrist that I may have social anxiety. That would definitely affect your confidence with the opposite sex. I haven't dated since I started having symptoms of anxiety (since high school). It has really sucked. I tried just toughing it out and exposing myself and just asking but that just ended up making me even more...confused and frustrated. To be honest, in my situation, I think that I will not get over this until I can control my symptoms. I have just started taking lexapro today, because, quite honestly, I am sick of watching my friends get all the girls they want while I cower in fear at every opportunity. I have decided to level the playing field for myself. Hope this helps. 
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Offline Born Again

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Re: attraction
« Reply #5 on: April 08, 2010, 02:21:25 PM »
This is one of the area's where I have been most effected...relationships in general, and public speaking too. I'm 23, I think Im somewhat good looking, but have never really had a serious relationship and have never been in a relationship for more then a month. I seemed to do better when I was younger, like 14 and 15 then I do now...possibly because my anxiety is progressively getting worse.

I feel your pain ghost, but I think the best thing for people like us to do is be patient, don't put pressure on ourselves, and continue to get to the root of our problems whether it be through therapy, taking meds, or whatever.
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Re: attraction
« Reply #6 on: February 28, 2014, 11:08:41 AM »
its a very common phase in everybodys life. just gather courage and go for it. things will become fine for sure
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Re: attraction
« Reply #7 on: March 05, 2014, 08:10:23 PM »
I think most guys like it when they're approached by the opposite sex. I do.

 If I guy does act weird though, he's probably worried about coming off like a creep.
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