important question

[XyzO3]

yea this is really important here.. I've been in love for 3 years with a girl but shes scared that her anxiety will interfere and maybe make us seperate.. I've been doing everything in my power to help her out but it came to me... maybe if we go out she will be happier and start focusing on better things other than the downside of her life.

[katoka]

I'm not sure that "going out" will necessarily help her anxiety.  Distractions will do just that, distract us from the anxiety, but not cure it.

Just know though, I've had anxiety for over 7 years, been with my husband for most of that time and we have a wonderful, loving, fulfilling marriage.  If she has chonic anxiety, you can absolutely have a successful relationship, but the key is understanding and support from the non-anxiety half of the couple and open communication from both sides.  With those things, a healthy relationship can certainly withstand the stresses that anxiety puts on it... trust me, my husband and I have been through it :)

Katie

[XyzO3]

thank you so much for the info.. its good to know i ain't alone having the same dilemma :)

[AnxiousGuy86]

i have to agree with katoka

distractions and avoidance of anxiety only reinforce anxiety and make it stronger.its one of those things that will not go away by just going out with her.

you love this girl and my advice would be to show her how much you love her.try to read up on anxiety and get an understanding on what people with anxiety go through on a daily basis.speak to other people with anxiety so you can get a better understanding of what shes going through and most importantly talk to  her about her own anxiety.I'm not sure if shes sought help or what type of anxiety she has,but the best and most loving thing you can do is understand her pain as best as you can.

i think by understanding,she may feel more comfortable about allowing you in ,because a thing with anxiety sufferers,we worry too much and think that the worse will happen.

Anyways i hope that made sense,and best of luck to you,Love is worth fighting for and i hope things work out for you and her as well