Panic kicking in !!!!

[KatB]

Today my husband is having surgery to fix his diverticulitis and check to make sure things are normal in there. I am in full panic mode at the moment worrying , I am not able to be with him and this is freaking me out.
My sister is with him but has not called me yet to updated me , I am thinking bad thoughts of him dying or having cancer. I am not able to get this out of my head , please help me.

[esthergreenwood]

Take some deep breaths. I kmnow how scary the waiting can be during a family members surgery. Buy just tell yourself that you're panicking prematurely. I use this sometimes- I say: If something goes wrong I get to panic all I want, but right now there is nothing to panic over. Then I do lots of deep slow beathing, sometimes in child's pose.

I hope that helps and I'll pray the surgery goes well.

[KatB]

Thank you I am trying to breathe and relax , its the fear of finding something or something going wrong that is just constantly popping in and ruining things.
Thank you for you're kindness

[sixpack]

Kate it is scary when you have a loved one in surgery.

My sister, last year, had to have a benign brain tumor removed.  We were told that it was most likely benign but we couldn't know for 100% until pathology ran the tests.  We were also told this type tumor was very vascular and she had to have, what basically amounted to an ablation done, before the surgery to cut off the blood supply before the surgery.  We also knew that it was the size of a tennis ball.  The doctor told us how the usual surgery goes etc but since it was so big.....  Doctor said that she shouldn't have any issues later on but depending on how much blood loss and .... Then we had to do all the after surgery tests to see if she had andy deficits.  Add to this that my father had a malignant brain tumor and died at age 46   .  So I gotcha, it is scary.  I'll tell you what I did to get through.  I took each procedure separately.  And I looked at the ones coming up would be done successfully.  I couldn't panic.  I couldn't think the worst case.  It was my younger sister and it all had to be okay.

Now about 16 months later she is doing well.  All of the big bad scaries that could of happened didn't.