My dog's death has traumatized me....

[RunLolaRun]

Hello everyone. One day, the UPS man came to drop off a large box to my house. My mom told my younger brother to hold my dog while she brought the box inside the house. Well, my brother being in a rush to play his video games, put her down before my mom is finished bringing the big box in. Next thing you know, I hear my mom yelling that the dog ran out. I look outside the window and see my dog running across the street because she was chasing the UPS man, next thing you know, I see her getting run over by a car. 

That was the worst day of my life, honestly. I cried and was really depressed for a very long time. This happened 4 years ago. I think I was more depressed over my dog's death then when my grandma died (probably because I didn't have a very good relationship with her).  Some people thought it was stupid that I felt so bad over a pet. But she was more then a pet to me.

Now 4 years later I have 3 dogs who I love and care for dearly. Today my dad was careless and let one of my dogs loose by accident. He yelled at me to run outside to try to get her.

I completely FREAKED out! I started to run around crying and yelling like a mad woman even the neighbor's heard me. When my family heard me they honestly thought that someone died because I reacted so badly. I ran outside with some steaks that my mom made for dinner to try to keep my dog from running in the street. Even though I had a hard time grabbing her, the steaks worked and I was able to catch her before she was able to run out of my driveway and into the street. Iam so overprotected about my dogs. But even I was shocked at how I reacted to the news that my dog escaped. It was not good. I'm locked up in my room now and embarrassed to face my family because they think Iam a psycho.

Now, my parent's want to send me to a mental institution. Ever since, my other dog was killed 4 years ago I get so scared that the same might happen to the dogs I have now.

Has anybody else been traumatized by the death of their pet?

[o-ren]

Hi Lola,

Love is a connection between two beings; regardless of their differences outside and inside, there is no boundary.  Your love for your dogs, shows how much of a caring person you are.  I have loved before, but it was very materialistic and selfish for my part.  It was not real and only played myself into thinking that that's all there is to it.  I deserve to be in a mental institution more than you, why? Because at my age, I don't even have the slightest clue of how it feels like to care and connect with another being. 

They’re maybe people in this earth that do not and probably will never understand you, but do not blame them, they just don't know how you view the world.  You have so much potential and warmth within your soul that everything you touch attached itself to you.  Your dogs might only be animals to some, but if you show them that they mean more to you, they will someday understand you.   

Do not be embarrassed on how you feel.  I believe that, that is something to be very proud of.  You have a devotion that you found and you should grow into that.  Devote your life into helping animals gain a better life.  Help the world open it's eyes of the benefits that they could experience of loving an animal.   Help people around you to improve the quality of their life just as much as you improve yours.  By doing this, you will help yourself; your family and people around you feel what you feel.

Everything starts and ends with life and death.  You should not be scared of the day that your dogs will pass away but instead treasure the moments of the happiness and joy that they bring to you.  They are created for your delight and the memory and time that you gain from them is one of life’s greatest treasure.  They should give you the inspiration and hope that life is beautiful but at the same time short, so benefit from it with all your heart.


I wish I could learn to hold and care for another being just as much you care for yours.  Love is very difficult to learn, and it seems to be deteriorating by every single day.    I hope when that day comes, I will know what to do. 




God bless Lola, 

p.s. Did you know that Lola in my native language means Grandma? hehe  :lachen001:

[NightOwl]

That is very sad and i would probably have reacted the same way.  Some people are just really caring and thus get hurt easily.  I dunno if you ened to go to a mental hospital or not because I can't even figure out if I myself am going to be forced to because I just am having such a horrible time trying to get out of my depression.

But anyway your parents just don't understand because nobody understands unless theyhave the feelings themselves.

I hope you get better soon.  I would say since it's been 4 years, you could at least use some therapy because with any type of loss, they will basically say it's normal to be upset over it for a while, but once it gets into years that you need to change your thinking basically and not consider it as horrible as you're thinking (or stop thinking about it at all, I guess).

I sure haven't got much help from therapy though and I have tried several different ones....