anxiety and ocd in a relationship...

[oldieslover]

Gah... I don't know where to start... My bf just DOES NOT understand... He seems to think that yes I do have some issues with OCD and GAD and depression but he just doesn't get it... I have anxiety attacks probably about once a week or more and everytime I get really sad and go into a freak out kind of mode he is always just riding my behind trying to get me to "be normal" I don't feel like I can and then I end up getting worse because of this added pressure... I mean I know being around me is frustrating because I'll do something because I'm upset then I'll lie a little bit because I'm embarrassed but a lot of it starts from I feel super anxious and I don't want to tell him because he'll just be like not this stuff again... We have been dating for almost 2 years now and this seems like an endless cycle... we have a few good days then I have an attack and we are right where we started... I just dont know what to do...

[FeelingOptimistic]

Hello!

I don't know what to tell you about your bf and understanding.  I don't think my husband or friends whom I've confided in understand, either.  I don't think you really do unless you've LIVED it. 

What I can tell you is that everyone here understands!   This is a great place to come with questions, just vent, and learn from others.

When I first found this site, I printed out the articles on GAD and Panic at the top of the forum and had my husband read them.  I thought they were very well written and fit me to a "tee".  I think he started to "get it" a little more after he read them.

It's frustrating having anxiety etc...in a relationship.  Myself, I've found myself feeling guilty quite a bit for being such a mess.  But I couldn't help it.  Meds have helped me quite a bit.

Hope you feel better.  Keep posting!

Feeling Optimistic

[oldieslover]

Thank you... I'm supposed to be going to the doctors Tuesday so hopefully they will be able to help me out a little bit! =)

[SASKRS]

Hey Oldieslover,

Good luck with the relationship issues. I am glad that you are going to see the doc. My husband has been fairly understanding. I think that it is hard for them to understand it. Sometimes it is hard for me to understand. I am glad you joined this site. It is very helpful.


Peace,

Sara