Help with anxiety and my relationship

[stacylee18]

Hi everyone!!
I need some advice.  I recently got married to my high school sweet heart.  He is in the air force, so I had to move from my hometown to Washington state to be with him.  My problem is, I am constently thinking that he is going to leave me.  I know where this comes from... we have broken up two times in the past and I am afraid this will happen again.  I know in my heart that we love each other so much and nothing will ever happen but whenever we get into little fights I start panicking.  I get so anxious that I am afraid to leave him alone.  it is really starting to affect our marriage.
Can anyone please offer any advice???

[MissDaisy]

Hello!!!!!!!!!

I am in a smiliar situation. Whenever my boyfriend and I argue or don't agree on something, I panic.  I think it's all over.  This is my black and white thinking as my therapist says.  Also I find that people with anxiety have trouble dealing with uncertainty.  When you are in a realtionship you can never be 100% sure what the other person really thinks, what they really feel or what will happen in the future. So we panic. It is very hard for us to just enjoy the present moment and not focus on what COULD happen.  My boyfriend and I love each other very much and I feel that he is there for me but sometimes I panic too. I don't want him to leave I am scared if he goes out he will meet someone or forget about me if he doesn.t see me or hear from me. I know this is ridiculous but it's just so hard to change the way I think.  If you ever feel liek talking about it let me know!!

MissDaisy
xxx

[puntnf4]

these bits make me worry...I have yet to get into a relationship, but fears like these are what keep me out of one to begin with....

It's because I"m afraid of ENCOUNTERING these situations. It's bad enough to be scared that you're afraid of rejection at the get go...but to be afraid of 'rejection' even -after- the relationship begins?! Damn, does the worry ever end?!   

[sixpack]

Hi Stacy

You have this same thread going in the Relationship folder--where it belongs--and in the intro folder and in the General anxiety folder.  So in order to keep things a bit tidy, I'm going to go ahead a lock this one up.  In the future, please, only post the same question in one folder.