Dying

[genius]

Why am I always expecting myself to die?  Like, I'd hold off on buying something.  Like, "No, I'm not going to buy that surround sound system because I am going to die soon."  I am always expecting myself to die.  How can I stop it?  I am completely healthy and only 16 years old.  Why am I like this?  How can I stop????

[BruiserBear]

Sorry to hear about your anxiety problems.  It's good that you're wanting to talk to others about them though. :)

It's quite easy to be afraid of dying.  After all, it's not something most people want to have happen to them.  Especially at such a young age.  But you might want to start seeing a psychologist if you want some professional advice on these thoughts.  They're clearly not good thoughts to be having.  You should be thriving in your youth!

I'll tell you something funny though.  I can vividly remember being about your age and thinking "I can't imagine ever living to be 25".  I don't know why I thought that, but it was hard to imagine at that time. 

Well, I just celebrated my 33rd birthday a few weeks ago. :)  You're going to be just fine.  Just keep reaching out for help if you feel these thoughts are causing you pain and worry.

[MJF]

I think some people just have tendencies towards certain ways of thinking.  I have been called morbid countless times in my life because I tend to reflect on death a lot more than others.  I have been this way since I can remember - as an 8 year old I would think about death every night in my room.   

I think at some point you will realize that all of this energy thinking about death and worry is not worth it.  I have learned (I am now 37) how to turn this thought process off at night because no matter how much I thought about death, I am just not coming to terms with it.  So my advice to you is to just work on your thinking a bit - your first automatic thought (the "I am going to die soon so I ...." one) may be harder to control, but your second and third thoughts are certainly within your control.  Every time you have a morbid thought like that counteract it by then thinking about the present -about living, about enjoying things like great surround sound. 

[el_chan]

i know exactly how u feel. when i go through bad times of anxiety i get a phobia of dying. and im healthy too and only 18. I was just telling my psychologist yesterday that the last time i went through the "death phobia" ,which was about 2-3 weeks ago now, i actually got all of my diarys and was about the throw them in the bin in case i died. i didnt want people reading them after i died. i realised how silly this was and stopped myself, but my point is, i know how overwhelming these thoughts can be! My only advise is to keep busy. i know that sounds pathetic and simple, but it helps me. if i give in to the thoughts and dwell on them it only makes it worse. Also talking about it with somebody helps HEAPS. every time i get these thoughts and i cant get rid of them, i ring up my closest friend (who went through anxiety problems herself when she was younger. shes 58 now and anxiety free! so its acheivable  ) and she helps me to see how stupid it is to worry about things like that and she actualy reminds me that im HEALTHY! haha. sometimes you need to be told by someone else other than yourself. 

take care