Need a little dating advice! :) thanks

[924guy]

Ok so I've been having a ton of relationship problems for monthes, well years now really. I have not had much luck with girls when it comes to long term dating or whatever, and my anxiety has not helped. And relationships do cause alot of anxiety and depression for me. But I've met this girl, well not met, because I've known her forever...but it's like we've just met. One day i just looked at her differently and decided what the hell, and started talking...and it was amazing. And I think I'm falling in love with this girl, and if I'm not, I will. Shes got everything I want, and is just amazing! Noy to mention the young lady lives about a football field away! hehe. I'm in high school, and when she asked me to drive her to school next year awhile back, I should have known she was a little interested in me. But heres the thing, We are "just friends" as of now..but I've been down that dark bumpy road way too many times. And I would like to eventually move forward. But I'm bad at seeing all the signs you vould say, and bad at knowing what to do, or do next.

My main point..What do I do to get this girl? Whats the signs?, What do I say? I really like her and I think it would work out great. I need to be careful about this though. I'm not sure how she feels yet, although I think she is a little interested in me atleast. But how do make the transition to a romantic relationship??? Thanks!

[firebird]

Hi,

maybe it's a little bit late to reply, but i just read it.

First advice i want to give you:

you have to get rid of your friend status. She will not get sexually attracted to you if she still sees you as a friend. She MUST be sexually atracted to you before falling in love. In order to feel atraction for you, you must have value for her.

If you're acting nice all the time, you will not get this girl. Don't chase her, don't act subordinate. create value for yourself by making jokes, having good body language. Stand up straight, be a man, give leadership, make plans for doing something with her, tease her and TOUCH her (very important).

Being good with girls is not something you're born with. It has to do with lots of experience. Everybody can beome very very good at it if they want.

Read the Mystery Method for example and you will find out.

[lt33]

Hey, I kind of disagree there.
In a relationship it is important to be honest from the start, and by that I mean: not to pretend being someone else because you think that the way you are will not get by. In my experience, I've only been happy with girls who accepted and enjoyed me as I were. I sure wouldn't act like an Alpha Male (is this expression right?...) if I am not one. The most interesting thing about relationships is that, when they're right, they usually develop naturally them selves, without need to force and impose yourself.

So, my advice would be:
- Chill out as much as possible. Try to feel good and natural about yourself. Keep your mind on her more than on yourself.
- Listen as much as you talk. One thing nice about girls is that, if you're really listening to what they say, you'll get to know her and understand if you're really interested in her. Besides, girls enjoy POSITIVE male attention, and respect that as long as you don't go as far as acting like a priest in confession or a best friend only.
- If things turn out to be a bit stressful, try doing something that keeps both busy.
- Don't use your past as a reference for what to expect for the future. If things didn't always turn out well in the past, it probably was because thetwo didn't work good enough as a couple, but with a new person, it may all be different for best.

[Door]

Ask her if she'd like to be more than friends?  Really.  Straight up.  Preferably right after you've hung out at the beach, at the amusement park, aquarium, some place really fun.

I was a high school girl once.  Whenever a guy friend liked me and did this whole song and dance, I'd jump at the chance to make out with him if I found him attractive, or if I wasn't attracted to him, it'd be awkward for a few days and we'd go back to being friends.

You can't lose no matter what the outcome!

[924guy]

Thanks! I love the replies. Firebird-kinda on the strange side, strongly toward sex, but it just may work! nice advice. It33-Great advice as well! I will remember that for sure. And Door-Lifesaver! I love it! I might just try this out. I think I will do that sometime after it gets a little bit further into the relationship. But good idea. And don't forget. This girl is my neighbor! which is kinda crazy, but I have a fetish for girls that live close by! haha. I see it as a potential plus in a relationship