Loosing the love of you Life

[lonely girl]

The one person i have ever loved told me 3 years ago they could no longer be with me. They still loved me but wanted to be with other poeple. Friends told me let them go, let them see what they are missing and they will come back.

1 year later i found someone new which broke my ex heart, begged me for another chance said they should have never have left etc etc. I did, it was like winning the lottery my love had finnaly come back. I broke off my new relationship before it got too serious told them the truth that i was getting back with ex.

2 years went by....... both very happy was better this time round than before, i world was complete until 2 weeks ago. They have left again and starting a new relationship already. I have lost friends after giving my ex another chance and no feel so alone. My life seems over with out them and see no point to anything anymore.

I just dont know what to do....... how do you stop loving someone.

[SAZZYG]

Hello, lonely girl welcome! 

I can totally relate to the pain your feeling right now, i have just broken up with my boyfriend of seven years and it hurts like hell and feel like I will never find anyone alse like him in the world. But it hasn't been working for a while due to certain negative events (my boyfriend lost his job, I was diagnosed with anxiety/depression etc) and no matter how hard we tried to be together, and how much we loved each other, it just wasn't meant to be. I have realised that I have been putting all my energy in this person and this relationship that I forgot everything else there is to enjoy in life. I felt so safe having this relationship that I failed to keep in touch with friends and then felt lonely and isolated. But you and I have to realise that there is more to life than men! Get together with your friends get in contact with old friends that you haven't seen in a while - if they are your real friends they will be there for you. Believe me, your true friends come out of the woodwork when you really need them. I don't have many, but the ones I have are quality!  Plan what you want for your own future, your career, and learn how to be happy and relax by yourself. Try a new hobby to make new friends. I am currently looking into taking skiing lessons and joing a walking club. Me and my boyfriend only broke up a couple of days ago and things are really tough. But, I have decided to be stop looking at the past and start looking forward to the future. They say that times a healer and blah blah blah. I believe that that I will always love my ex as much as I do now, and it will hurt whenever I bump into him into the street, see him with a new girl, etc but life does go on and it is possible to form new relationships. I don't know if any of this helps you, but I just wanted you to know you are not alone in having to deal with this kind of pain and that no, your life is not over, see it as a fresh start! Who knows what the future holds but be optimistic about it! Keep smiling chicken

  xxx

[NightOwl]

Well I have felt so much pain over girls in the past and somehow I eventually got over it "enough".  I can even talk to them without getting upset.  So it can go away eventually.  Although I wouldn't be around the person often or it won't ever have time to go away.