Alcoholic Husband

[Jillian]

I have been married to my husband for 32 years and alcohol has always been a problem, sometimes worse than others. He drinks everday, and have often found empty bottles hidden in differant places in the house.  He says he doesn't have a problem, but I am really struggling with it right now.  I am 50yrs of age with three grown children and am thinking its time to leave, because he is not going to change.  Every time he is late home I get myself so uptight, when he comes home drunk he is usually verbally abusive to me and blames his drinking problems on me.  Over Christmas he came home one evening in a cab around 3am and had a womens purse in his  possesions, he says he dropped a secretary to her house on  his way home that was very drunk and she forgot her purse in the cab, not sure what to think.  I know if I leave him I will miss him terribly as we do have some good times together, just so confused.

[1335TM]

I think you are brave to ask yourself these questions.  His drinking is not your fault.   When it comes down to it, we each make our own choices.  If you ever need to talk, I'll listen.   

[sarah78]

I think you should really give Al Anon a try :-) have you heard of it? You would be surprised to see just how much his drinking has really affected you. I think you are a strong woman to put up with it for so long, but your husband has an illness and needs real help, help that you cannot give him.

Be Blessed and Take Care.

Sarah