Janey,
I know what you mean about the drinking. All through my 20's I would often drink too much because it seemed to be the only release of all the pressure of my feelings. It felt so great to just feel normal for a while, but then I would wake up the next day with feelings of such remorse, even if I had done nothing wrong. I would ask friends and my boyfriend if I did or said anything stupid and no matter what they said I didn't feel consoled. My emotions would be up and down for 2 or 3 days after a drinking binge. More recently in the last few years after doing an anxiety program and some therapy I notice that the alcohol just doesn't have the same effect on me. I think it's because I have released many of those old bottled up feelings and experiences that I used to feel the need to escape from.
Just remember you're not alone. You're understood and cared about here.
Rachel